I honestly don't find the girl im currently dating to be fat. I find her to be curvy and a little chubby. Her face is phenomenal and she holds the weight very well. She exercises and I hope she continues to lose weight but honestly I don't know how much. If we continue dating I feel like she will revert back to bad habits and will lose motivation to go even though I will still be there 5-6 days of the week. She's admitted she's confused why I'm dating her, I've told her I'm absolutely crazy about her personality and I do find her extremely attractive. BUT unfortunately I do have a giant hook here. If she does not lose more weight I do see myself eventually cutting it off.
I realize how aweful and shallow this sounds but its the bold truth. I can't date someone who doesn't exercise and doesn't have the drive to better themselves. I always date fit women, which severly limits my options and I havn't found anyone worth seriously dating in years. This girl though drives me crazy, she's sooo amazing. I will continue to date her for now but Im going to feel absolutely aweful If I have to cut it off down the line. What do I do? I can't change my opinion it just is what it is. I realize how shitty I sound but hey give me a break... I looked past her weight in the first place and found an amazing person. I just don't think its enough.
Should I continue to date her (which is what I want) with the risk that I may lose attraction down the line? Or should I cut it now so that neither of us are as hurt down the line? I really hope she can continue her fitness journey with me and I will try to push her, but that raises one more question...
How do I motivate her and push her in the gym without making her feel bad? I mean she's already like confessed her chub to me, i said "i still find you extremely attractive, sexy, etc." which is true but Im also expecting more progress.
I've never had initial feeling for a woman like this before.
Should I continue to date her (which is what I want) with the risk that I may lose attraction down the line?
Or should I cut it now so that neither of us are as hurt down the line?
How do I motivate her and push her in the gym without making her feel bad?