Absolutely not intellect in a woman of any race or culture is a very sexy thing indeed. The thought of being able to go out for a meal and have a real in-depth conversation with her is actually quite scintillating. Whilst I never try to knock or put someone down due to low intellect. It's very hard work when you have to start and search to be able to keep the conversation going with little or no input from the other side.
1. ha ha ha ha a classic case of guys 'demanding rather than commanding' 2. Guys like to get their ego boosted by being the uncrowned king at all times 3. If you are talking about Indian guys then they are nurtured to think that (I'm not referring to the global internet savvy GAGer types here) they are god's gift to mankind and the woman is born to serve them 4. I've known even intelligent, confident and outgoing girls pamper their rather dumb man (who I've known to get slaughtered in meetings) as the emperor. 5. Nothing wrong with that but even the guy should realize certain things as a realist than using his alter ego at home or with his girl. And the girl must realize that she is the one responsible when he gets too much upper hand. 6. Indians apart most intelligent and confident girls dating any race or ethnicity get sidelined because the basic male ego doesn't want to belittled 'by a woman' - that's how nature's created us :) 7. Being intelligent isn't the problem just so long as she isn't the upstaging kind in public. Intelligence in a girl turns me on but being upstaged all the time is a deal breaker for me :)
I want someone that is pleasant to be around, not some hard bitch with a PhD from Harvard. Intelligent girls can be laid back and have a sense of humor, but most ambitious girls are quite the opposite.
If you want an easy reference to what I find completely unsexy, walk into Wells Fargo or Chase and talk to a female manager. Very uptight, conservative, and scripted. And they even ask what I'm going to do this weekend. Cute, that's right off the training guide!
If you throw your intellectual superiority in people's face, that could be a problem. If not, then maybe India needs more time to adapt to feminism (the good kind). It could be that guys need to be providers and protectors and don't like not having the bigger salary or being the most brilliant in the couple.
I prefer smart women, I like their wit and the discussions are more interesting. I like a woman that has her own goals and her opinion about things, as long as she is not so opinionated it is overbearing.
It has to be a combination of book smart and common sense smart though. I have met quite a few women that are intelligent when it comes to their career, but give them a problem that requires common sense, and it just does not prevail.
This will sound bad but traditionally Indian culture doesn't exactly promote women as being much more than housekeepers and babymakers. Intelligence tends to interfere with obedience. Personally I find intelligence very attractive, I have tried dating dumb girls and I just couldnt do it.
I get what you mean, but please don't generalize all men when saying stuff like that. I personally find intelligent woman to be really attractive. I guess it just kind of suggests (in a good way) that she is slightly independent and doesn't need to depend on a guy all the time for help. She can take charge in a situation and get stuff done.
To answer your question, I think (some) men find intelligent women to be a turn off because they want to be smarter than her and get conscious if they look stupid compared to a woman, and they want to be the "knight in shining armor" that gets to save/help out the girl. I don't know, it's just what I think.
Intelligence definitely is a turn on! I would love to have an intelligent conversation with a girl! As long as she makes time for me, and her studies/work/friends/hobbies. All about time management.
I'm Indian, and some Indian men act this way, due to their cultural upbringing. To them, women are objects (NOT to me), and western acting women (who sleep around, drink, party, etc.) are sluts who will sleep around. They also put women on the pedestal since they're split apart from non-relative women from birth until grad school (if they come to USA). Then they start acting creepy and relentless. Being smart, but socially retarted STEM majors doesn't help either
India is a conservative society that MUST be changed.
I don't think we do, if they are actually intelligent that is. A lot of those women who are eager to talk about their intelligence are pricks and not at all that intelligent often drawing parallels in between having a worthless degree and having high intelligence.
I don't find it to be a turn-off (in fact, quite the opposite). But, I do see where this can become a problem (according to my friends). Long story short, a smart girl is a "delicate girl". A "smart girl" would want a relationship, and a (for non-offensive purposes) "unintelligent" girl doesn't. A "smart girl" knows what she wants, and again, a "stupid girl" is someone that can easily be passed off. Granted, I've met "smart girls" so don't care about who they have sex with... so I'm going to assume they think you're the "unintelligent girl" in this case :)