It seems so silly to me that and a lot of people tell me I am attractive... I ger hit on by dozens of guys whenever I go out to the bar or club or anywhere but yet I can't land a boyfriend. In fact i was a virgin up until I was 22 and I felt so silly being one still I lost it to a random one night stand (who ended up dating me for a few months but i wasn't feeling it)
i just kinda want to what love feels like and i don't feel like I will find that ever. Also oh god how ironic I am feeling these things close to valentines day not cliche at all.
I'm in the same boat as you and I'm 26. I've dated, had sex, etc but no long term relationship or official girlfriend even. I guess it's better than nothing but it feels like I'm in a constant revolving door of dates and it's nothing to brag about.
My appearance isn't the issue as I get told I'm cute and funny but it's like I'll get all these dates but then the girl will either ignore me or just give generic replies, never initiate if they respond. And the worst part is I don't know what I'm doing that's making them flake.
Guys hit on you all the time in the bar and the club means that you must be attractive. Don't be questioning that. I think though its about meeting a guy in the right place. These guys you are meeting in a club or a bar are not going to be people you end up in a relationship with. Its possible, but less likely. They are looking to have a one night stand and thats why they hit on you. I just want to mention that I am in the same boat that I am curious as to what love feels like, but that is separate from being in a long term relationship. I had a boyfriend for a year and was not in love with him and he was not in love with me either, both of us didn't have the guts to break it off until much later. It was dumb. I also had a boyfriend for a month and we were not in love. I didn't have sex with either of them. Sex, love, and being in a relationship are all separate entities. You can be in love with someone, they can be in love with you and not be in a relationship for certain reasons. You can have sex and not be in a relationship. You can have sex in a relationship with no love. Having all three I think is what you want and thats what many of us all seek. Its all about looking in the right place for it and sometimes you can't try or do anything and it just happens. It usually happens when you least expect. A guy will ask you out, you date, fall in love, have sex, wedding or possibly could be in a different order. Just live each day in moment and focus on being you. Perhaps you give off the vibe of being desperate or you could also be too picky. Just think about all these things :)
Well, you have to work at it, honey. Love isn't like a Christmas present and there it is. You go out, meet guys, and then love develops over time - you keep dating the same guy and as long as you like each other decently, it will become love. It's not hard.
22 year old brah checkin in.. don't listen to my profile.
Love fucking sucks dude.. it's overrated.. Seriously nothing is worst than catching feels then getting into a relationship and breaking up then dealing with the depression that follow. Been in two relationships.. Wasted a lot of time on dumb sloots. Single is awesome dude embrace it. I'm waiting till I'm in my late twenties when I finish college before I ever attempt that shit again.
Let me get this straight, you are 22 year old woman. you have never had a proper boyfriend. you are attractive and guys hit on you all the time? unless there is something specific or whatever you want in a guy. then i fail to see how you never been able to a man unless well. you are after a specific trait.
I'm 24 1/2 and still haven't had sex or a boyfriend, and I'm still alive. It's not a big deal. Do things at your own pace and when they're right for you. And please... don't ever settle for dating a d-bag just for the sake of not being alone. That's one of the biggest mistakes I've made in my limited dating experience.
Nah, you might just need that mental connection first. That was my issue (still is) Need to build that mental connection with the guy before you can get to physical then emotional. At least, with me anyway :)
I'm 21 almost 22 and right there with you :) it's not that guys don't find me attractive or notice me, they just never take the time to get to know me. I don't have much advice, except this little bit of wisdom I read the other day. if it's meant to be, there's nothing you can do to mess it up. If it's not meant to be, there's nothing you can do to make it work.
So don't give up hope. We'll find our people soon enough and it'll be all the better for having waited :)
Damn you're mixed up. You're doing fine. Why do you have to have a long-term boyfriend with potential marriage at such a young age? What is your rush? I think it's more about feeling good about yourself and is any one damn boy.
You are that way because you haven't found the right person who makes clicks with you yet. Just cuz you haven't found the one doesn't mean you'll never find him. Just don't rush into feeling love. Always follow your instincts and listen to yourself. Don't let others influence your thinking. A lot of people who look like they have found love, haven't. You're honest with yourself an that's a good thing :)
I feel ya girl. In my own experience, love is the trickiest thing in the world. It's awesome, and it's awful. Don't ever feel like you have had to experience anything by a certain age, I know it sounds cheesy, but it'll happen. Just make sure to have a solid sense of self and not let a relationship, or pursuit of a relationship completely take over your life.