A guy who seems pretty great and pretty serious has been talking to me for months. Everyone thinks there is something going on. Thing is, 3 or more times he's brought up not having a lot of money. "I'm poor right now" "I'm broke right now" stuff like that. So question is- does your financial situation change how you feel about getting with a girl? Or just an excuse to not do it?
Of course it changes things , a girl will expect dates from me, she will expect gifts, she will expect me to be the man and i want to be the man but if i am poor i can't provide most of that or it will be very limited so we think twice about getting with a girl, why get with a girl, not satisfy her then get dumped? its better to wait for the right time when we have the money right? some girls dont care about money that much but evnetually they all do so unless you have a plan to make some money later either by finished your education and finding a good job or starting a business most women won't stick around for long , expect of the emotionally unstable ones, and being a kinda poor guy... that sucks i have to admit but this is life.
It does for me, honestly. If I don't have money (which is unfortunatley quite common) it means I can't do anything with her, I can't take her out I can't do what guys are suppose to do and as such tend to just not try to be with any one until the situation changes just so I don't have to worry about rejection based upon my economic status (or possible guilt trips) or feel like I'm not good enough for her because I cannot provide those things for her.
it dictates your lifestyle and often health. its also connected to your self image and even self esteem... its 50 percent of the reason why you can land the really hot chicks and dictates how many babies you can have. having enough money rather than lots (subjective) can also keep your marriage secure, 25 percent of divorces are said to be from money issues.
its black and white.
have you seen a really hot chick with a poor man? if he's under 35 it doesn't matter because he may be onto something but realistticaly you never see it.
Well, yeah it can be. I wouldn't call it an excuse because it's a reality. If it's not an issue for you, you should let him know that and talk about it. He probably can't afford to do the normal things of dating and I'm sure that probably bothers him.
Of course it does... Women expect to be wined and dined and taken out to places for fun... If we can't do that we can't date... UNLESS you are cool with it... If you are you should say dude I don't care we can do shit for free... And I can help you look for a job or whatever... NOW THATS the type of girl I would die for...
Well most girls whether they say it out loud or not DO care about a guys wealth and so he feels like he can't get a girlfriend while he doesn't have money.(Actions speak louder than words and what men are SEEING is very different from what women are SAYING).