We have been together for nearly a year, and I just expected more from him today. Maybe it's bitch to say but I did. He got me flowers last minute from a grocery store, took me to a movie, and had dinner at a mediocre restaurant. I on the other hand but thought into his gift and planned ahead of time. I made a broquet full of his favorite items and bought him vapercraft stuff. I even woke up bright and early to make him breakfast.
I see my friends posting pics of purses and etc that they got and I am jealous. I kind of dont want to be romantic or thoughtful anymore because I feel like I put more effort into this than he did. I don't want to cook for him anymore or even go out for his birthday. A simple card I pick up at the grocery store last minute should suffice. I am just disappointed. I shouldn't have done anything for him at all.
Most Helpful Guy
So because he did not do anything special on a stupid day, that has become commercialized. You forget all about the things he does for you threw out the year?
Just because, you saw all your girlfriends getting things. Well a lot of the times that guys go all out for Valentines Day, is to try to cover the dumb crap they do the rest of the year.
I saw the status a female friend has up over feeling unappreciated because of what her boyfriend did for her on Valentines Day. I just shook my head, let's see what her boyfriend has done in the months leading up to February 14th.
He treats your 2 kids that are not his, like they are. He pays for the day care of one, and supplies all the things the other needs for school. He pays the rent, he puts groceries in the house. He helped you get out of debt, he got you a car so that you could get your kids to school and day care and get to work. He picks the kids up from day care and school, because he get off work before you do every afternoon. He pays for the babysitter, so he can take you out on dates. He looks after the kids, so you can have a break from being mommy and spend time with your friends.
Than on this one day, she feels unappreciated because he did not do something for her. But the real kicker to me, is that she did not get him anything for this day but expected him to do things for her.0
Most Helpful Girl
I was in your position once. Not that I wanted gifts, but I'd hope being together a year meant he'd know me. I would have loved a full body massage from him, that would have been extremely thoughtful, and free! I just needed his time and hands, since I worked hard and wanted to feel relaxed for once.
You can either break up with him, if he doesn't seem to really put in any thought towards you (going to see his movie and not something you'd both like, for example). Or you can explain how you feel. Let him know you'd appreciate more thought and effort from him and give him another chance.0