If you're at a random place and a somewhat attractive guy who seemed interesting asks you out for coffee would you mind it or get weirded out (this is mostly towards 16-20 year olds since I'm 18)
Guys, how have you successfully gotten dates, where did you go and what did you say?
I also really need help talking to a girl when she's with her friends. How would girls like to be approached in this situation (excluding those of you who don't like to be approached at all)? I really don't have a choice since my classes are online, gotta find girls someplease you know..
Most Helpful Girl
This is a long paragraph but just read it and you'll understand
Okay, so the thing is, with most girls aged 16-20 (I'm 15 but I have older friends who have basically the same ideas as me which we talk about all the time), they have grown up reading and watching all these hopelessly romantic love stories like The Fault In Our Stars, Twilight, High School Musical and an abundance of Leonardo DiCaprio films, to then find out that in fact, most guys at their schools were not like Augustus, Edward, Troy or any of Leo's characters and they don't just come up to you or say sweet things when they like you. Instead they just ignore you even though all their friends come and tell you he likes you and when your friends ask him, he admits it so you get weirded out because you start to notice that he looks at you weirdly in the corridor and you now know why but he's never acted upon it before so you just presume he's weird and awkward and you just decide your not going to bother with him because all these love stories you know involve guys who are so in love with this girl and no one else and you would prefer someone like guys in the movies rather than a guy who doesn't seem very interested because you presume he probably has other girls which just gets too confusing if you were to get involved and you start comparing yourself to these girls who you never did before and decide how could he possibly like you when these girls are so perfect and you just want to dig a hole somewhere far away and stay there. I know this might sound a bit extreme but this is what goes on in many teen girl brains and its what a lot of us use to distract ourselves from the massive amount of work we have at school so we find ourselves thinking about if a lot. Anyway, so we figure that its easier to hold out for some guy who likes us and only us which is why lots of guys who try to play it off and act cool get shut down.
Soooo, no matter how corny some pick-up lines such as "Hey you probably get this a lot but you're actually really pretty, would you want to go get coffee?" Girls, including myself, find them pretty sweet to here. It sounds REALLY cringe worthy but its flattering and it's how things start in a ton of movies. Plus the sweeter the first meeting, the more likely the girl is to tell ALL of her friends, that's just what's going to happen. Also, you should go straight away if you're not busy and ask if she wants to grab lunch together because then she has less time to1
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Most Helpful Guy
The key to dating, is to maximize your exposure to women. To maximize your exposure to women, the key is to GET OUT THE HOUSE as much as you can.
For example, if you exercise/work out at home, join a gym or exercise outdoors (ex. at a public pool, at a local park or field, etc).
If your hobbies are usually solitary, look at the local park and recreation department at your city and find clubs and classes to join that either coincide with your hobby, or interest you in general.
Instead of kicking it at home, having an alcoholic drink or two (or three!) and watching TV or sports, go out to a local bar / restaurant and sit at the open seating bar area.
Most important of all, when you are out and about, make sure to TALK to people. Small talk may seem pointless but it is a very valuable tool to get conversations started. Especially with women, if one is friendly, personable and not pushy, she will talk. :)
It is easy to get stuck in a rut of taking online classes, exercising at home, watching tv/movies or playing video games, talking to friends online, then going to sleep. BREAK this solitary monotony and get out there in the world!3