Alright, so I've been out of high school for almost five years now. Yep, I'm old. Anyways, like a lot of people, I have old high school "friends" on my facebook that I never ever spoke to that I generally forgot of. Now, once I started posting pictures from instagram, I guess it came out that I no longer looked like a boy, and a ton of high school guys came out of the woodworks trying to hit me up.
There is one guy in particular that I spoke to personally once, and saw occasionally at school. He came to a party, spoke to me briefly, and five years later... silence. Then, a week ago, he pops up on my facebook trying to initiate a relationship with me. He immediately wanted me to travel to where he lived (he lives like 2 hours away) was very quick to make his interest known and is insisting on skyping with me. He seemed to get infatuated fast and while there's nothing WRONG with him and he's sweet... I'm not feeling anything that he's feeling. I am wondering if its because he didn't care about me for five years until suddenly out of no where.
So my question is literally: what are your thoughts on the situation? It's only been a week and he's talking about splitting a ticket for me to bus down there and "wanting to get to know me better ;)"
Just so everyone knows, he lives two hours away and is aware that due to work that he wouldn't be able to see me for three months at the minimum.
If I was ever that insistent I'd pay for the whole ticket myself because that's a huge risk. Five year silence to a guy you only talked to once. That's virtually no different then a complete and total stranger and you're traveling a bit of a distance to see him. There's nothing wrong with a guy striking up a conversation with you because you're hot (that's how most relationships usually begin) but you used to be in high school together and he's had 5 years to talk and only does it once he realized you don't look liked a boy and deems you hot enough so that's a little telling of his (and those other guys who only suddenly started talking to you personalities). It also asks the question why is he going after a girl he doesn't know so far away and not pursue a girl near him? I personally wouldn't do it. But that's just my suggestion.
It sounds to me like you're a conquest, like he just wants in your pants. He gets you to come to him, hopes for sex, and then doesn't have the issue of having to commit. I can see in your pic that you're attractive. You're two hours away, and he won't have to worry about you catching him in lies or taking up his time. I'd just be his friend, if that's what you want, and let him know that that's as far as it's going. If he wants to remain your friend, then maybe it's just infatuation that he's feeling now and it will fade or solidify. Let him come to you if he wants. Don't meet at your house though, meet out. Then leave the hang out separately and don't invite him to your home. At least not that first time. You need to make sure this guy has good intentions. Be careful, and Good Luck.
Depends on what kind of guy he is. Sounds like he's all infatuated. If he already dated a lot of girls it might be he remembers something about you that he likes and sets you apart. If on the other end he's a total shut in then you might just be one of the few people he feels he could reach out to. Just my best guess. I couldn't say for sure. Obviously. Tell him to jerk off a few times THEN talk to you about the bus ticket. His dick might be the one in the drivers seat.
I would be wary. It is a bit strange he is moving so fast. As you say he gets infatuated fast which raises red flags for me. If there was a history of closeness in school I might do something in your current situation but as it stands, what I would say is "I am not comfortable doing something so fast, why don't we use three months apart to get to know each other. If we click and want to meet after three months then great. What is the point in rushing if we can't meet again for three months".
Could he be crushing on a picture? Or perhaps he views you as a viable prospect that slipped through his fingers, if he had only acted way back when he had the chance? I know that isn't how _you_ see the situation, but sometimes one person sees behavior in a way that doesn't match the other person's perception.
Horny guy who is a Shallow Hal. Not much future there for anything but a meaningless hookup, if that is your style. If not, tell him he can come visit you if he would like and you would be happy to recommend a hotel for him during his stay. You'll never hear from him again.
I would stay in touch for a while, talking via a chat box and asking him the logical questions: why after five years he got back in touch and is so eager? If he honestly likes you he'll explain it. If he plays games close the door! Maybe he had a crush on you long ago and was too shy to go for it. I would not go to him at least for a month or so... you never know he's totally creepy :-(
I think he's a douche that only wants sex and if he really wanted to know you he would ask you out on a date and travel to you and have a meal with you and have one of things not too often heard of anymore called a conversation you're very pretty I can see how he wants to "get to know you better;)" but if he actually wanted to he should've gone about it the right way instead of being sexual straight up which quite obviously anyone who knows anything about you knows that that's not how you want things to go
He wants to sleep with you and he wants you to put in all of the effort
that's not a good way to start any kind of relationship..
If he wants to see you, he can visit you. I wouldn't make a big deal about the whole 5 years thing, he could be a completely different person now, because of the age you guys were the last time you seen each other.
It's just a date, doesn't have to mean anything more than that.
I've gone through the same thing! I've started posting nicer looking pictures of myself on facebook and guys who didn't even talk to me in high school are now complimenting me and flirting and whatnot.
I think you should avoid guys like these. Because why didn't they notice you in highschool? You could have an amazing personality for all we know. But they didn't take the chance to get to know you back then, and now they are now that you're posting your instagram pics on facebook? It sounds like they are they type of guys that just go after looks alone. Which isn't right. You want a guy who likes you for your looks AND more importantly your personality. He just sounds like a "f-boy" seeing that he sent you that message about wanting to get to know you better. Don't fall for it hun, you deserve better.
If that's the case, why doesn't he just come and see you instead? If he's geniuely interested he would make the effort. You two could get coffee or grab some dinner. Then you can truthfully see his intentions. I really get turned off when a guy insist on mr coming over especially if it's two hours. I rather go to dinner first as my number rule to determine if he's even willing to make such an effort.