I'm secretly getting married to a guy I'm in love with the only problem is my family won't approve of him. My mom is getting over it but my dad doesn't know. I work for my dad and I'm so scared he's going to fire me. My mom said the only way he will keep me working for him is if I get pregnant and I'm not ready to have a baby. I'm trying to get my dad to expand the buisness so me and my fiance can move out of state and not deal with them because everyday is just presure. They like to tell me what I do wrong in my life. My fiance is the only person that makes me feel better. I feel like my parents think I'm getting married on impulse. Theyre mad because they don't know him so they already hate him. I just don't like getting them involved with my life. So is it worth it? Should I just say "f you mom and dad I'm getting married?" They're already making it an issue about us living together. :/
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Maybe they should meet him and get to know him? If they develop a relationship with him, it will be harder for them to dislike him. Especially if he's a likeable guy.
Part of their hesitation towards him could be due to not knowing him at all.
You are 25, and at that age, parents like to still treat you as a child. Even though you are an adult, who is quite capable of making your own decisions. They need to understand that.
I'm 26 and my mom still tries to parent me. There are times when you need a parent, but not when she is nagging me to do dishes or to wear a coat outside in the cold (like duh!).
The fact is, you are an adult. Unfortunately they have a hard time seeing that because to them you are still their baby.
I would sit and have a heart to heart with them. It's not fair if your dad is going to fire you just for wanting to get married. You are 25 years old!
I have friends who already have 4 kids! And some of them are already married! 25 is not too young to get married, so I have no idea why they are so upset.
If you are happy, that is all that matters.0