I'm secretly getting married to a guy I'm in love with the only problem is my family won't approve of him. My mom is getting over it but my dad doesn't know. I work for my dad and I'm so scared he's going to fire me. My mom said the only way he will keep me working for him is if I get pregnant and I'm not ready to have a baby. I'm trying to get my dad to expand the buisness so me and my fiance can move out of state and not deal with them because everyday is just presure. They like to tell me what I do wrong in my life. My fiance is the only person that makes me feel better. I feel like my parents think I'm getting married on impulse. Theyre mad because they don't know him so they already hate him. I just don't like getting them involved with my life. So is it worth it? Should I just say "f you mom and dad I'm getting married?" They're already making it an issue about us living together. :/
This is little information for such a complicated idea. You should of course care what your friends and family think of the person you're marrying. Not that they have any say, but you are on the inside, and sometimes it's hard to see things when you're close to the situation. Many abused women think that everything is fine in the relationship, and that there is no reason to leave. Sometimes prejudice is the reason people don't approve of your relationship, or jealousy. If you love someone, and the relationship is mature, and healthy, and stable, then there is no reason to let other people influence your choice to marry. If they're legitimately concerned with your well being, then it's important for you to understand why. Ultimately, whatever choice you make, it will be your choice. Just be 100% sure this is what you want. So many marriages end in divorce these days. I hope you're happy, whatever path you take. Good luck.
I only care when it comes to my parents and family, beyond that no one else opinion on the matter is relevant. But even so if my family would have to understand that I choose to marry and spend my life with is my choice and that I wouldn't make that decision lightly without seeing something good in the woman in question and like her or not they would have to understand and deal with that.
this is a tough one. i believe strongly in parental approval but i think I'm in the minority. anyway if u love him and he loves u, and u know it will last despite the sceptics in ur family, then you'll have to try and prove them wrong, or do the thing which i DONT advise, which is to go off and separate yourselves from them, living your own life together and giving no fucks.
your family raised you and put up with all your shit until it was time to let u go. i think they deserve better treatment.
Marriage is a big decision. I don't know you or your parents or your fiance personally, but why is your mom getting hurt over it? As judgmental as they can be, sometimes parents can see flaws in our friends/partners before we can. I see a lot of girls where they are in abusive relationships (physical/verbal) and they don't notice it because they are so in love with the guy. Maybe she is worried for you or just wants the best for you?
But it is your decision at the end of the day. All I'm saying is, marriage is a very big step so make sure that you are 100% ready to go through all the ups and downs in life with this guy and that you want to raise a family with him and all that. Make sure that he's the one for yourself. Because your happiness is what matters most!
Well, how long have you two been together? That is a big factor in it. Also, if you're serious about this guy, then he should meet your parents. Your parents can't not like someone they haven't even met yet. They're just mad at the fact that you're living together. I say set up a lunch or dinner and have them meet.
It's not up to them what you do because you're not under their roof. Could you sell It Works or cosmetics to support yourself if he fires you? I would say that parents raising you is a legal obligation and you don't owe them for anything, you're old enough to make your own path.
You don't need your parents approval you are a grown women, do whatever you want. I don't give a shit what my parents think of my boyfriend and they won't stop me from marrying him. And your parents shouldn't stop you. You shouldn't care what people think, do what makes you happy ^_^
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