So I haven't even already had a date with this guy yet but, to be honest, I am already worried.
He seems interested, eager to call and meet. I fidn him attractive, articulate and an interesting person. There is only one thing that I am worried about and it is the age gap and his "profile".
I do not know his age but he must be around 15 years older than me. That in itself shouldn't scare me but the thing is he's somewhat youthful, meaning he lives a bit like a young person. Though he has a job, he's very invested in music and other creative projects, though I am not the crative type myself, but this is not a problem. But I've been wondering why he's interested by someone younger (I am 26 by the way), I don't want it to be some sort of way to remain "young" through me..
So am I worried for nothing? or should I tread lightly?
Most Helpful Guy
I've having trouble understanding how being invested in music and other creative projects is considered to be somewhat youthful. Older people like that kind of stuff, too. Maybe there's some chemistry there. If you are interested in each other, I think you are doing a disservice to yourself by worring about this. Yes, tread lightly, but at least give yourselves an opportunity to get to know each other better. And the older you get, a 15 year difference will seem less of a difference. Relationships with that age gap aren't all that uncommon.2
Most Helpful Girl
I think as women, we are often way more concious about this than men. True that it could be that he is trying to remain "young" through you, but is that really the problem? Or are you really worried that when you get old he will leave you for a much younger, attractive gal? I don't blame you for thinking so far into the future. But few things you need to keep into account...
1) You like the guy and are attracted to him, so why not give him a chance AND get to know him? However, don't get carried away or be fooled by his money and "luxury lifestyle" that he provides you that it makes you blind to other issues. So stay concious of that and remind yourself to remain humble!
2) What kind of man is he? There is nothing wrong with wanting to be young... But what values does this man have? is he honest/faithful/kind? What values are you looking for in a partner and does this man meet them?
3) What is it you are actually looking for and what is it HE is looking for? Why don't you just communicate that? ;)
4) Ask him about his age, why he is still single, etc.
In order to get all these answers, you will actually have to get to know the man... So don't cut him off just because of his age... He might be a really good one;)
And hey, if he turns out to be what you're not looking for, at least you got the experience of dating an older man ;) always a good one! However, you won't know this unless you actually go out on a date with him ;) So stop being afraid and just go ahead and like Nike says, Do it!
My parents are 25 years apart and been together for x amounts of years, so, that should tell you enough. Good luck!0