Why won't he approach? So there's this small coffee shop that i go to and it's connected to this small cafe/kitchen. So once I was sitting down and I look up and see a guy staring at me who works in the cafe/kitchen. I was facing his sideview but his face was turned and looking at me and smiling while he was answering a phone call. His eyebrows were slightly raised. I came back a few weeks later to grab a coffee to-go. While I was waiting, I look up again and i see him talking to someone, but his entire body is facing me, he's smiling even bigger, and his eyebrows were raised even more. So my friend and I went a week after. When we were about to walk in, I saw him talking on his phone near the window. When he saw me, he smiled really big and his face lit up. So he works at the cafe/kitchen and those workers usually dont work the register at the cofee shop. When my friend was in line to buy a drink, he got off his phone quickly and ran to the register to ring her up. When we were sitting down, he kept staring at me. Like everywhere he walked he kept looking at me. When his shift ended, he looked at me one last time before he left. Last week I went alone and sat down to study for a few hours. It was busy there and he was walking around a lot. When I was ordering my drink, he came by to help the lady behind me and he stood in front of me and leaned forward but didn't say anything bc I was talking to the person making my drink. Today i went alone and everytime I looked up i would catch him looking at me and this happened several times. He even cleaned the table in front of me but didn't say anything. I stayed there for 3 hrs.
Well, he must be confused as well, look at his side: "Hmm, I found this really pretty lady who comes at the bar every week, she stares at me a lot, I thought she was sort of into me.. but I never had the oportunity to attend her. But when I smile at her, she never smiles back :( she just looks at me suspicious, I keep smiling, but she never hints me back. Should I take this as she is not interested? But if that's the case, why does she keep coming back? One day I was cleaning the table in front of her, I was really close, and leaned into her, but she didn't make a move, nor smiled... her whole body language tells me to stay away..
So what do you think guys, should I approach her at the bar or not?"
Isn't this part of being friendly/their service thingy? bc this happes to me too i thought it's them trying to make u come more so they get credit for it and theyll get paid more... you know what i mean? When i go to a store.. some really hot guys would come to me asking if im doing okay, smile, show they like me,... Even in restaurants, cafe, etc.. so we tip them more did you know that some attractive people get tipped more than usual? i know huh We've talked about this b4 and some even hand their numbers to them. If i was out normally like in uni, school... guys won't approach me and talk to me and i know im not attractive.
It sounds like he's PROBABLY interested, though of course it would be impossible for anyone to tell just based on your typed out description of events. If I had to say though, it does sound like he's interested, but may be nervous to make the first move since he's working and you're a customer. However, it would be acceptable for YOU to make the first move, maybe ask him his name and introduce yourself, or something like that. Just initiate the conversation and see where it goes. But you should probably expect to make the first move since it would probably be frowned upon for employees to be hitting on customers while on the clock. The other way around though (customers hitting on employees) is acceptable and appropriate in my opinion.
He's sending signals alright... that he would like to get to know you. but he's not making any moves... maintaining professionalism i guess. he is doing it in the most "stalkerish" way possible though. to keep it simple, wants to bang ya.
Displaying one's attraction for another every possible way, without being creepy, is often done so in this manner. Considering he isn't allowed to give out numbers at work, he's being obvious in the hopes you might slip him yours; a wise choice.
I understand but try not ro read too much into cuz what if it isn't true and he's bot interested? You'd be let down. I say jus talk to him and ask if he knows a good bowling alley or something stupid... if he has interests im sure he"ll reciprocate and might Eben offer to "text u" if he finds a spot. Trust me, I've learned the hard way thinking someone was interested and wasn't :/ And he did the same thing too like how u detailed. Another guy i thought was cute i started a conversation with him (and he worked at a coffee shop too! Lol) and asked him about a certain spot in which he suggested "well give me ur # and ill let u know when this place opens." Then he text me that eveming saying hi :)
He has to be nice because your a customer. But he seems interested. I think since you go there so much and he notices you, you should go up and introduce yourself. Flirt a little. Get his digits. Get to know him. It could work out. But for all you know he could be creepy or something. So you should have a friend with you or off to the side.