Could I have ruined my chances on the first date because I made crude jokes? There is a guy that I had been talking to for about a week. We spoke through text and calls, and finally met up for a first date. He did not call me back after that date, so I have been analyzing everything I have said or done to make him possibly not want to call again. So I'm suspecting it's because maybe he thought I wasn't a sexy, classy girl due to my inappropriate humor on the first date. Personally, I have a crude sense of humor, it's not very PG-13.(Some jokes were about buttholes, some were about gay sex that I heard from a comedian at a stand up show, things like that.) Days before the date, when on the phone, I had even mentioned that my humor is this way. We had a great date and even kissed. We had great conversation , yet during the date, I admit, I shouldn't have, but I made some crude jokes with him because I had gotten comfortable with him. We were vibing, I thought he was a funny guy and so I felt that making crude jokes would be normal. He even laughed at all of them and didn't make faces or anything showing that he was displeased. In hindsight, I regret making those types of jokes right away on the first date because maybe he thought I wasn't classy or maybe he thought I was unrefined and not sexy/mysterious. My friend told me that he should like me for who I am naturally. I agree, but am having doubts that I might have left a not so great impression. What do you guys think? Do you think that this ruined my chances with this guy?
Most Helpful Guy
It's possible that turned him off, but I mean if that is your personality and he doesn't like that part of you, why even worry about it? That side of you will come out eventually anyways - better he knows now than on date 3 or 4. There are a lot of guys who wouldn't be offended at all by these types of jokes, so just keep being you and you'll find the right guy.
It cold be something else too, but even then, it's still not worth pursuing.
He could also have thought you were not interested in him. I've been on first dates where I've felt the girl actually isn't interested and I never follow up on those ones. We just kind of go our separate ways. But I've always told myself if she texts me sometime I'll respond and I'd go out with her again1
Most Helpful Girl
A lot of times first dates don't lead to second ones, and second ones don't lead to third ones. No point worrying over it, it just didn't mesh. Whether it was your sense of humor or the fact you chewed loudly, or used the wrong fork for your salad... who knows? Could be anything.
For the record though, I'd definitely rein in the intensity of rudeness on a first date, lol.0