I've mostly had very bad experiences with guys. I am someone who needs time to get to used to 'new' people/friends/guys in general. At the beginning of a 'relationship', I am reserved and cautious. I don0t understand people who fall in love blindly. To me, love aren't those silly feelings at the beginning of a relationship which make people change their behaviour and go insane...(sounds very unromantic). I am someone who approaches relationships rationally, and if I am not immediately in love with a guy (within 2 weeks or even less), they presume that I am not interested and start acting weirdy. But what about getting to know each other slowly etc?
It seems that guys need so much affection... this is very tiring. I mean if I am givin you my time, then you can assume that I am interested in getting to know you, even if I am not madly in love with you from the very beginning...
Most Helpful Guy
I do not think falling in love right away is the best approach because you hardly know the person and who knows what might happen. I have fallen in love both slowly and quickly before. I think the slow was better and lasted longer overall. So I do not care much for the girls who fall extremely quickly, but I do like expressive to an extent because I am rather expressive myself. I do not need everything right away, but I do need something at least that shows interest like spending time with me or asking to hang out like you have said1
Most Helpful Girl
I think you've got the right idea about relationships. There are so many people who fall in "love" so quickly, I just don't understand it.
I promise that there are indeed guys out there who want to take it slowly. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and we've never said "I love you." Frankly, we feel more comfortable without it because of what "love" has become in our culture. It was only in the last six months that he started getting a little sappy, but even then it's pretty infrequently (also, we're long distance now, which I think could be contributing to the sudden sappiness). You just keep doing you. It's better to be with someone who fits with the truest form of yourself.1