I mean, when it comes to Asian girls (especially Chinese girls), since I'm Asian (Chinese) myself, I get instant attraction and attention from them. I just get the vibe from them, that it's almost natural. I mean, I could date them and get their numbers right away, but since I'm busy with classes and studying, I don't have time for it. A couple of times, I somehow grab their attention. But when it comes to girls of other ethnic groups (like black, white, or latina girls), I feel like I have to work to somehow at least earn their attention. Not only that, I have to work five hundred times as much just to get them to recognize that I'm somehow a potential "mate".
I think it's true for me. But what about you? Do you naturally get along with other members of your 'ethnic group' as opposed to those that are not of your 'ethnic group'?
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I think it's harder, but not worth worrying too much about. When you date outside your socially designated group, there are all sorts of things such as unfamiliarity and plain old discrimination that you have to hurdle, in addition to the whole chemistry thing that's preventing you from getting the girl you want.
The trick is to not get obsessed with these hurdles. Some Asian guys think white guys, for example, have it so easy. But there are tonnes of lonely, frustrated white guys out there too. Ethnicity/race is just one another thing you have to do deal with. Hopefully, your positive qualities can overcome any initial barriers.
For example, there was this white girl that I was interested in. We had coffee together, and I thought we had a good time, but she never warmed up to me. I never told her that I liked her, but I'm sure she at least had suspicions. Anyway, I always wondered if it was because I was Asian that she didn't like me back. Recently, I found out that she was dating some Chinese guy. So it was MY fault, not my race! That made me really happy.
I know that vibe you're talking about. I definitely feel it more among Asian girls than girls of any other race. But I've had white, black, and Indian girls like me before, so I know I'm not trapped in some racial bubble. Is it a little harder? Yeah. But I just relish the challenge.0