I'm a 23 year old girl. I'm kind, sweet, and intelligent. No, I'm not overweight or unattractive, actually quite the opposite, but for some reason I've been extremely unlucky in love and never had a boyfriend or dated anyone. The only thing wrong with me is that I am extremely introverted and shy (INTP). It's a combination of my personality, and life experiences that has caused this, but it's really hard for me to change my personality. I'm not a supermodel, but I know I'm a pretty girl. It's happened twice at work that I noticed a very good looking guy checking me out, and seems like they had a crush on me, but never made a move. I don't really know why, perhaps my introversion puts people off? I also thought maybe men don't think it's appropriate to hit on a woman at work (there is a strict anti sexual harassment policy at my job), but I dont know...
I used to never think much about it because I always focused on work or school, but now as I'm getting older I'm starting to get worried that I'll be forever alone... I do not know what to do. I try to stay positive, but sometimes thinking about dating is starting to make me depressed. I try not to let it hold me back, and continue to better myself in other aspects of my life, working on my career, staying fit and healthy, improving my body and appearance etc but I feel like I'm really failing at this one aspect in my life.
You are something special right now. The more you date, the less innocent you will probably be. I think it's hot. Of course eventually I hope you marry, if that's what you want. Many people get married later in life these days. It doesn't hurt to know what you want. I must warn you that You will never forget your first boyfriend. I wish I had waited until I was ready to marry before I started dating, but I'm different than most.
there is a lot of different reasons why someone will not approach you. the first reason i see is guys dont see you as approachable because of how you interact with others. your to guarded not letting people know the real you. deep down i feel your probably a very loving caring person but dont show it. for someone to come to you, you first have to let them in.
there's nothing wrong with that ! My cousin didn't have her boyfriend til she was 24 . And I didn't have my first boyfriend til I was 19 . I was a shy girl and til this day im still shy In some things. I knew I wasn't "ugly " . In fact a lot of guys tried talking to me or having something more. But I'm the type of girl who doesn't date the first guy that talks to me. I'm picky in what I want , so maybe that's why it took me some time to find someone who I really liked ! but don't worry , he'll come when it's the right time.