So, I've always been attracted to East Asian men (Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc). Except I have the worst time asking them out or even flirting. My Asian girlfriend can constantly get dates with Asian guys and believes I can too. However, I heard that most don't date outside of their race. I have a thin petite frame, pale skin, blue eyes and dark brown hair. I don't know how to get them attracted to me.
Most Helpful Guy
Your Asian girlfriend is right; you can do it too! :P
Almost every Asian guy I know DOES find girls of other races attractive as much as Asian girls are attractive. :) It's true that most of them don't date outside of their race though, but that's because of various reasons that are not related to what they find attractive. Now, what to do:
1) Just look at the guy you like and make eye contact, like you would with any guy. Most guys of any race are accustomed to the "invisible man" feeling while in public, because most guys go through life not getting any second looks from most women at all LOL. So any girl who is looking him in the eyes will immediately perk his attention.
2) SMILE. :) This is a huge thing. I can't speak for the guys in Japan as COCOCHANEL described in her answer here, but smiling at an Asian-American guy (or any guy from the US for that matter) is one of the best things that you can do if you like him. It gives him the feeling that, at worst, you are a polite person who is approachable -- and that, at best, you might be totally into him. xD So he feels he has a chance to make something happen. xD
3) If he doesn't approach first after you've been smiling at him, just go up and talk to him. Don't worry about sounding boring. Most guys of any race rarely ever get approached by girls, so they'll be more than happy to accommodate you. You don't need to actually ask him out; just do things like say hi to him before he says hi to you, talk to him, show that you're interested in him, laugh at his jokes if you think they're funny, etc. He'll get the hint.1
Most Helpful Girl
first of all many have controlling, racist parents but don't let that stop you.
as a person who has only dated east Asian men by choice (physical preference) my advice is to not be too pushy, direct and/or demanding at the beginning.
let them catch you looking and catch them looking repeatedly. seem quiet and demure. smiling is not necessary and in fact i've never smiled at a guy i liked. i wait until they come talk to me and take the lead.
95% of my experience is with japanese guys in japan. if you have any questions feel free to message me.1