I currently am in a LDR with my boyfriend in the army. He is very sweet and we text every day and are falling deeply for each other. I swore to him I'd never cheat on him.
Recently, I got in touch with a guy I've met 2 years ago in the Air force. I started talking to him, complimenting him and subtly flirted with him. He then said "Am I ever going to see you?" and things started getting deeper from there.
Would you tell your boyfriend about the flirting? Would you openly show him the conversations that has flirting in them? I don't think so.. Thats when you know if its cheating or not.. Cheating doesn't only mean physical contact with someone who isn't your SO.. Its when you hide something from your SO coz u know things won't go well if u tell them... I'm in a LDR too, look, even if u don't see you are wrong now.. If things get deep with anyone else, then trust me, you will get yourself a confused heart.. Since you are in a LDR and there's no Physical contact, only conversations, then if those conversations start getting deep with someone else u would slowly start falling for him.. And then BOOM, you put yourself, in a total mess.. If you really love your boyfriend you have 1 option.. Don't continue talking with that guy about deep/personal stuff, the more personal u get the more you will think about that guy instead of your boyfriend, you don't wanna be there trust me! I hope I helped 😊
Currently this is cheating because most of the girls are thinking, oh low how amazing girl I am I could be with anyone, why I shoudn't try this boy, it's really attractive and things like that. If you ever love a person, you won't cheat him in any condition.
No but what do you mean getting deeper... like you guys talked about past feelings for each other before? or like you talked about your fav sitcom. If I was your boyfriend I'd feel betrayed if you willingly kept going deeper while talking to him.
The thing is, you can flirt with this guy all you want and say it means nothing, but it sounds like he thinks you are interested in him.
Where do you draw the line between cheating and not cheating? It's not a clearly defined line. You may not have sex with him, but the thing is, it's a foot out of the relationship. What is the goal while flirting with this guy? He's already asking to meet up with you. What is that going to accomplish?
If you really love your boyfriend you would stop talking to the other guy and focus on your boyfriend. But if you don't want to be with your boyfriend anymore, then you need to let him know.
I truly believe that one thing that seems innocent can lead to other things and then not so innocent things are happening. You really should analyze what you are doing and figure out what you want.
There's nothing wrong with flirting, it can be innocent. But this other guy clearly thinks you are wanting to be with him. He's asking to see you, and probably wants more. How are you going to handle this?
A one off flirt with someone cute in a grocery store, or something like that is innocent. But persistently flirting with the same person is kind of leading them on.
If you're flirting with someone else other than your boyfriend, its cheating. As someone else who in in a relationship with someone in the Army, shame on you. Your boyfriend is serving our country, getting smoked in workouts, being shouted at and probably wishing he was with you and here you are flirting with someone else. I can't believe that. That is disgusting.
have you actually ever seen each other? how did he become your boyfriend? reading the comments, he kind of sounds like a psychopath... he'd kill guys who talk to you? yeah, don't tell him. I don't know though, if you want to be with him and you know he's so possessive maybe you shouldn't be talking to other guys...
Cheating doesn't necessarily have to be kissing , cuddling, sex and sexually contact. If you have to hide anything from your SO... then you are already there. If you are hiding anything from your boyfriend then it shows you have ulterior motives
If i had a boyfriend and he lived on the moon i still wouldn't have contact or meet up with another guy. I wouldn't disrespect my boyfriend that way. Plus, i wouldn't want to spend time with any other guy but my boyfriend
You seem to have this misconception that cheating can only be physical. You don't have to have sex with someone to cheat on your partner. You're not only leading this other man on, you're betraying your boyfriend's trust in you. That's pretty shitty, right? Make a decision. Do you want to throw away a relationship to pursue something that may never happen? Or do you want to stay with your boyfriend and actually be loyal this time?
It kind of sounds like cheating since they don't know about each other. In one of the responses you described your current boyfriend as "super jealous and possessive." Those don't sound like good things so I'm not sure this is a healthy relationship.