After only 7 months of a relationship, my boyfriend askes me if I ll be okay with him having side chicks, hypothetically. Not sure what to think about it. Last month I screwed up when I got high with a friend and things escalated fast and we slept together but I told my boyfriend about it immediately and apologized and even asked to break up cause of guilt but he said no, and forgave me. And now this, not sure what to think.
Need an extra brain on this situation, preferably a guy. Thanks
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, this is about what happened.
Either he's leveraging it because he always wanted a side chick.
he's hurt you cheated and wants to do this to feel like he has his self esteem back.
I can't see him having one long term only working for you, based on what you've said.
You could consider an open relationship if you both want one.
If it's about his self esteem he needs to break up or get over it... most likely.
I think a FMF threesome would be a safer one off to maybe make him feel like things are more even without it impacting the relationship as much. Not that they appeal much to me.2
Most Helpful Girl
No, tell him to fuck off.
I mean unless you want him to sleep with other women, which I'm assuming you don't. You cheated and that was bad but he has made the decision to continue the relationship and now he has to live up to that.
It seems to me he is hurt about what you did and wants you to feel his pain. Or maybe he just saw an opportunity for a free pass when you cheated.
Either way, it's not work out. You can't change how he feels about this and this IS how he feels, he wants to sleep with someone else. I see no future there2