After only 7 months of a relationship, my boyfriend askes me if I ll be okay with him having side chicks, hypothetically. Not sure what to think about it. Last month I screwed up when I got high with a friend and things escalated fast and we slept together but I told my boyfriend about it immediately and apologized and even asked to break up cause of guilt but he said no, and forgave me. And now this, not sure what to think. Need an extra brain on this situation, preferably a guy. Thanks
I mean unless you want him to sleep with other women, which I'm assuming you don't. You cheated and that was bad but he has made the decision to continue the relationship and now he has to live up to that. It seems to me he is hurt about what you did and wants you to feel his pain. Or maybe he just saw an opportunity for a free pass when you cheated. Either way, it's not work out. You can't change how he feels about this and this IS how he feels, he wants to sleep with someone else. I see no future there
I feel so sorry for the both of you, you guys should get a personality check I mean this isn't love, this isn't no where close to a relationship. He is using you, and you are making yourself used with the things you're doing. Its sad. This isn't normal.
Break up with that guy and start a new page where you won't get high and do stuff with your friends that you're gonna regret later. I think its time to change to become a better person.
There is no "should" here. You feel what you feel. Most people have difficulty in non-monogamous relationships. But some people are fine with a non-exclusive relationship. If you want an exclusive relationship then it sounds like you need a different guy.
If you refuse he'll likely bring up your mistake. But, you have a right to refuse if you are not comfortable with it. This is totally your decision and it only matters what you think, not what everyone on here does. This is what they call an open relationship and if it happens, then you have to worry about STD's etc. What if he get another woman pregnant? Not to mention how you'll feel knowing you aren't the only one?
Clearly, you're not okay with it. Why he would forgive you, is beyond me. What to think of it? It's retribution, you got to play him, now he needs to get back at you. If you like drama, sure, go for it, otherwise you should take time out, get high and loaded, hump your friend and the usual.
Well he doesn't trust you and I'm not sure if he sees a future in your relationship. He not dumping you doesn't mean he isn't looking for another one especially when he's asking stuff like that. I'm sure that by his logic it wouldn't be cheating since you gave the permission to do it. Either that or he is not really over the betrayal of trust and just likes you grill you by implying that he's looking for a new one even if he really isn't.
Maybe you two should opt for an open relationship. Seems like he's okay with you seeing other guys, and maybe he's wanting the same. But it's up to you what you want. Do you feel comfortable sharing your partner with another? Would you feel comfortable being shared?
You need to go get some good counselling about healthy relationships
Since you're asking this question, you're obviously not okay with it. But then again, you feel like he has the upper hand since you slept with your friend. Did he mention you that he wants a side chick after the incident or prior to it?
It seems like he is using your incident with your friend as leverage to get you to say it's okay for him to be with other people. It's up to you what you are comfortable with, but this is definitely a weird situation.
Just break up. He obviously isn't over the fact that you slept with someone else and you can't do much about it. He wants to get even... I say break up and sort out your things. This isn't going anywhere anyways...