Okayyy so this dude has never been in a relationship ever (he's 21 as am I) and he has one night stands every few weeks or months and has never seen a girl more than once.
we met New Years, we have met a few times for sex. Initiated by both parties. He is a super busy dude with athletic events. But honestly, he isn't a "bad boy"... He's a total softy. He said he just never tried to like a girl "like that." I told him if we were to continue to do what we are doing then he can't meet with any other girl, he promised. We are going to meet this week again. I don't know if it means anything or helps my cause, but I am academically strong and smart life-wise (except for dudes.. No experience, so if I'm being a fool, tell me). And I have been told I am gorgeous and should model.. I have guys asking me out left and right. I really just want to invest in this guy though.. For reasons unknown to me. Would it be a waste?
Also, I thought he had broken his promise and called him out on it and said goodbye, and he kept messaging me that i had it wrong, he's telling the truth, pleading to just trust him...
I found out there actually is a high chance I was given wrong information. Is he playin me? I'm super introverted and my social skills aren't the best... I feel like I don't have much experience in this so please help.
Most Helpful Guy
You can't "tame" him. He either wants a relationship with you or he doesn't.
There would have to be a reason for him to change. There would have to be something that changed internally so that he is now, for the first time, in a place where he wants a relationship AND he would have to see you as being different from the type of girls he only wanted to have sex with.
Most Helpful Girl
He said he just never tried to like a girl "like that."
'tried to like a girl'? I don't know, in my part of the world, liking/loving someone is something you can't control.
This isn't much information, especially since we don't really know the guy, and what's in here is not enough.
I still think it's possible he's lying, and well, it's possible that he's not. Whichever the case is, I will not recommend playing games. I still strongly believe that romantic feelings develop over genuine connection and other factors one can not influence much.
So, at the risk of being boring and deemed as unhelpful, be your best possible self, don;t be clingy and if it's supposed to happen (meaning: if you truly are compatible and have chemistry) it will happen. It's not like he'll be able to behave like a 15-year old forever (cause that's his emotional maturity right now).
Good luck with everything! :)1