It hasn't really bothered me until recently but as of late I have been wanting to get back into the dating world now that I am comfortable and less stressed. I am actively seeking a relationship, openly speaking to new people and being friendly. I have made so many new friends this past year and it just so happens that many of them are guys. Despite having all these friends that are guys I am still single. Why? Am I too closed off? Are my guy friends intimidating possible boyfriends? Maybe I am just unattractive haha I am curious any reasons why?
I have friends that are girls, but the vibe I get from them are "they are friends" and not looking for a relationship. It is possible that the people you are with are under that same impression. If you give off a "I just want to be friends vibe," that could stop guys. If they aren't the kind of guy to ask a girl out right from the start, they'll tend to ask them out after they believe they have a chance. I would say the majority guys are oblivious to signs so sometimes you have to make it really obvious lol (and that does not mean dressing promiscuously. It means good ol' flirting).
If you are looking for guys to spontaneously come up to you and talk to you and flirt/ask you out/etc., having guy friends will intimidate them and stop them. As I said before, no one likes rejection. Your chances will improve if you aren't surrounded by guys. I'd say your best chances are alone actually... without headphones on and not studying.
I'd also like to note number 9. Guys actually really love it for the most part when a girl asks them out. It is rare for a guy to be asked out. If you look at the vast majority of polls on GAG for instance saying "guys, would you like if a girl asked you out," I bet 95% of them would have guys saying "yes."
The guys you have come to call friends may have an attraction to you, but may not be showing it. Since I do not know much about you or what you say to the guys I do not know about you being closed off, but it does not sound like you are too closed off if you are out meeting people and seeking a relationship. As for being unattractive I do not think that is the reason either based on your profile pic. Maybe they do not want to put in the effort or are scared to put in the effort? It seems to be a common thing in the dating scene these days is a lack of actual commitment
Stage 5 serial friend-zoner. You are very organized, borderline OCD, you keep things neat, everything has it's place. You are still fun, and have a good personality, smile and have a nice sense of humor, but are quick to categorize a man into a friend before he has the chance to prove otherwise. Solution: the right man will come alone, a bad boy perhaps, break the mold at a social event, a party perhaps you're a little inebriated. She has walls, but they are not impenetrable by the bravest and manliest of knights. You need to be swept off your feet, treated romantically, taken on adventure to the highest point and then just grabbed and passionately kissed until the little bit of nerdiness you are clinging to just melts off along with your clothing.
I read signs when a girl wants to date me or is interested. What I want is a friendship with a female but every time I get close to a female they end up crushing on me so I only have guy friends. Why do girls want what they can't have? I don't give off a demeanor that I'm out for pussy too cause I'm not out for sex in general. I want friends! And more female ones.
not every boy is going to like you, while thinking demotivated. Also girls with high confidence also are not very often to be liked, real mens doesn't like girls which think they're so amazing & important, since mens should be ABOVE them.
Ask them out. Make a move. Don't just expect them to come to you and fall into your lap. You have to be active if you want shit to happen. If you only treat them like friends, then they'll think they have been friendzoned. Flirt with them and actively show your interest, even to the point of asking them out on a date. Girls need to stop beating around the bush and expecting men to do everything for them.