It hasn't really bothered me until recently but as of late I have been wanting to get back into the dating world now that I am comfortable and less stressed. I am actively seeking a relationship, openly speaking to new people and being friendly. I have made so many new friends this past year and it just so happens that many of them are guys. Despite having all these friends that are guys I am still single. Why?
Am I too closed off?
Are my guy friends intimidating possible boyfriends?
Maybe I am just unattractive haha
I am curious any reasons why?
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I have friends that are girls, but the vibe I get from them are "they are friends" and not looking for a relationship. It is possible that the people you are with are under that same impression. If you give off a "I just want to be friends vibe," that could stop guys. If they aren't the kind of guy to ask a girl out right from the start, they'll tend to ask them out after they believe they have a chance. I would say the majority guys are oblivious to signs so sometimes you have to make it really obvious lol (and that does not mean dressing promiscuously. It means good ol' flirting).
If you are looking for guys to spontaneously come up to you and talk to you and flirt/ask you out/etc., having guy friends will intimidate them and stop them. As I said before, no one likes rejection. Your chances will improve if you aren't surrounded by guys. I'd say your best chances are alone actually... without headphones on and not studying.
I read this article and I would say it holds pretty true for many of the points.
I'd also like to note number 9. Guys actually really love it for the most part when a girl asks them out. It is rare for a guy to be asked out. If you look at the vast majority of polls on GAG for instance saying "guys, would you like if a girl asked you out," I bet 95% of them would have guys saying "yes."2