I have no other real reason other than feeling like I'm being tied down. As bad as it sounds, I feel like I'm not relationship material yet. I feel the pressure and expectations. My boyfriend would always expect me to go see him or he see me every weekend to every other day. He doesn't understand that I'm exhausted from work and school. He would expect me to always look appealing even if I want to have a lazy day. He'd down me for wanting to hang out with friends. I honestly can't take it and I'd rather be single. People keep telling me to talk to him but I've tried and honestly I just want to be single. However, I hate that I have to feel like a jerk in the end because I know that it'll break his heart.
No. If you're not ready for a relationship then break it off. To continue when you don't want it is only going to create problems anyway. Just break it off as gently and nicely as you can, but also be very honest. Say "I'm not ready to be in a relationship right now. I'm sorry, I like you but I have to end the relationship"
Nope! You only have one life and you never know when your time is up. You don't get to go back and do it over again. So you might as well make choices that are going to make you fulfilled and bring you harmonious joy!
Having a boyfriend (or girlfriend) can be hard when you are ambitious with goals and primarily focused on working towards a certain type of future because they require attention, focus, energy, and time. Plus his whole whining/nagging thing where he throws fits if you want to enjoy the company of your friends too is going to start making you resent him. That ish is annoying. He doesn't sound like a very realistic, good boyfriend anyway. He sounds like one of those guys who thinks real life relationships are suppose to play out the way they do in the movies.
You gotta do what's best for you which sounds like leaving this relationship. His heart will mend in time.
"People keep telling me to talk to him but I've tried and honestly I just want to be single." It doesn't sound like you've tried very hard. You got involved in a relationship and that carries some obligations with it. Make a REAL effort to discuss this matter with him.
Some of the expectations may be assumptions on your part and he may not have those expectations. I know that women are that way in particular about their appearance. They blame guys for their need to constantly primp and attend to their clothes but most guys really don't care.
Relationships are also about compromise. You can suggest compromises on the important issues. If he is not willing to compromise, then you have given it your best effort, But, if he is willing to try compromises, you owe it to yourself and to him to at least try those alternatives.
The worst outcome would be for you to be looking back at this, maybe 3-4 years from now, wishing that you had tried harder, realizing that you still love him, but you can't have a second chance because he has moved on and is married to someone else.
Your not being a jerk. God is know how your feel totally. I spend half my life wishing I was single and had time to do things I want to do or see the people I want to see.
I think if your with the right person it's ok. I love to be with someone and I would be happy for them to be out all the time or seeing their friends. It's about freedom and happiness for my partner and I hate feeling trapped or like I'm obliged to do something
Xxx it's up to you what you want to do its your life and if you love him enough to stay with him xx
I think that's quite reasonable. Perhaps you should just tell him you need more space and try to work the relationship out before deciding to fully break up with him. Maybe he'll accommodate for your needs for extra space, though growing too distant and you might as well end the relationship.
It's up to you though. I understand how you feel though.
ya, clearly you are too selfish to meet the needs of another person right now. Stop this nonsense and move on. When and if you ever figure out what your issues are and address them, maybe you can be with someone then. not now.
If you feel like you can't take the pressure anymore, talk about it to him to avoid hurting him more. He won't know until you mention it. If he still doesn't change, you're free to go with a clean conscience
The same thing happened to me, she released her from me telling me she want to be free and things like that, now she quite regret about it, knowing that it's hard to find a boy with simillar character and mind.
You are relationship material, just this guy and his high demands is not the right partner for you. You've tried explaining to him all that is going on in your life and it sounds like he only wants you to cater to his needs, without a thought of yours. Relationships go both ways. It's not all about one person, and that's what he wants (it to be all about him, and for you to be available every time it suits him). God how draining I think that would be alone, nevermind along with studies and a job.
Don't feel like a jerk for a guy who never really cared for you to begin with. If he cared, he would understand all that goes on in your life and take on board the space you need.
Don't break up with him. You should just act as you feel comfortable, instead of you breaking up with him let him take a decision. Just don't be you the one to break his heart. 😊