let's say this person is really nice, funny, popular, and very ambitious. most importantly he really seems to like me because he says it a lot everytime i ask him to be honest when i'm self conscious. it shows through his texts and his touches and his kisses and all the stuff he does for me.
but i don't feel like i should feel the same way, but i don't. i'm afraid of him leaving, so i try not to get too attached and i usually disappoint others. how can i overcome this insecurity.
and how did you overcome these kinds of feelings and fall in love if you ever did?
Most Helpful Guy
It's not something you control, it just happens. If you're not feeling it then he's not right for you. When you truly connect it will just happen (whether you want it to or not). You do have to get over the assumption that every guy is going to leave you though. Maybe you need to see a therapist for that if it's really extreme.2
Most Helpful Girl
Love never comes with a guarantee, no one can guarantee they will never leave you or hurt you , because people change , their feelings and so do their priorities. So you have to just focus on the "here & now" . Don't focus on what could go wrong , instead focus on everything that could go right.
You can't control someone else's feelings. People fall in over time as their feelings grow stronger for each other. Like they say " you can lead a heart to love, but you can't make it fall" So just enjoy the times you are sharing together now , and try not to think too far ahead into the future.
Try not to worry about becoming too attached to him, because he may sense that and he may view it as a sign of indifference towards him. Eventually that could cause him to start pulling away.
If the relationship fails then you will just have to deal with that IF and WHEN it happens. Don't worry about it ending , when it is only the beginning for you both1