I met a guy I was unsure of and I thought what the heck and went on a date w/him. He is a nice guy, but I'm just not feeling it. Dating has been a hard prospect after breaking up w/my 1st love. I knew I wanted to date my ex on the 1st date and we saw each other practically everyday. The problem is, his spark lasted maybe 4-5 months, then I felt a huge decline. I don't know if my hesitation stems from heartbreak or lack of chemistry. Thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
You could maybe try one more date, but if you do not feel the desire to date him then do not drag it out0
Most Helpful Girl
It didn't work with your first "love" because you were INFATUATED with him. Infatuation FEELS like love because it's so strong, but it does exactly what happened in your case---fizzle out rather quickly. Love, on the other hand, takes time to grow and develop and has to be nurtured, and as a product of that constant nurturing lasts a lifetime.
You need to honestly ask yourself what you want---a guy that gets your heart racing and immediately grabs your attention, but is out the door in a few months, leaving you to live your life repeating the same pointless cycle, OR a guy who is NICE that you can grow to love and keep long-term?0