He knows my past of being involved in the sex industry, so he views everything that has to do with me being naked Infront of someone else as sex work and cheating. But like, it's ART modelling, i pose and peoe draw, there is nothing sexual about it at all. And he is artist too and we have done life drawing TOGETHER. So It pisses me off that he never says anything about other people doing life modelling but if I do it he has big issues with it.
he also had a really ugly fat friend who does burlesque and he used to go watch her all the time (I don't even know why, because she is fucking ugly but I guess he liked her trashy costumes) He would always say that isn't striping when burlesque is actually stripping!! And then when I wanted to take a burlesque class, he suddenly decides that it is stripping!! Ughhhh
I dont see it as cheating, its art and I assuming you are getting paid for it. Knowing about your history I can see why he has concerns, maybe he is worried you will fall back into that, but if you love him and respect him, you should talk to him, because if you just go do what you want, you are not respecting him, you need to come to some kind of agreement.
your boyfriend and the person answering below, sound really immature. in addition its your body. he does not own it boyfriend or not. you are not cheating on him or flirting with others, this is work and the body is art. just bc he has to sexualize it does not mean that is how it exists in the world. honestly his reaction would make me seriously re evaluate my relationship. it sounds like he does not respect the human form and only sees it as dirty. and I'm not sure how his response is not suspicious and disrespectful towards you.
its surprising he took a drawing class and has this attitude. its a shame bodies are treated like dirty deviant things to be ket from the world. if you can appreciate the art of the human form thats great bc a lot of people can not. its a lost skill. I'm considering nude modeling as well. its just traveling around kind of makes it pointless as a job , bc id spend more time getting their than doing it and getting paid.
how much would you be making? how long are the sessions?
I'll make this simple for you: you either need to accept the limits your boyfriend imposes on you to assuage his "concern" (read: jealousy) for you, or you need to break up with him. He's probably never going to change how he feels, so if you can't deal with the person he is, then you need to end it.
You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself (which includes changing the people you associate with).
What the fuck is wrong with you? You used to work in the sex industry, and now you want to sit around naked all day, getting ogled by other people? No wonder your boyfriend is apprehensive about this. Also, you're showing an almost total lack of appreciation of his perspective. Also, really, what the fuck do you expect by coming on here? Do you really want complete strangers giving you relationship advice when they don't know you or your boyfriend? The only reason you've come on here is in hopes of getting random strangers to agree with you, in some desperate attempt to soothe your own conscious for when you eventually decide to betray your boyfriend and embrace your slutty nature anyway. You're disgusting.
If you want to do it, you have to cut the ties with him, the bonds, because trust me it is very frustrating knowing other people are looking at my girlfriends naked body, although it may not be sexual. If you aren't that passionate or that very much interested in it and are more interested in keeping your relationship going then do that instead, it is acted like the libra scale of Law, which is more outweighing (important) , your relationship or your modeling?
I don't see the big deal with art, but it's up to you to decide. The question is, do you care enough about your boyfriend's opinion to respect it? No relationship can work if your not willing to compromise and sacrifice some things for it.
You can't want him to love and respect you and NOT expect him to feel protective and a little bit possessive towards you. Those things go hand in hand. You are his girl, and so he doesn't want other people staring at your nude body. That's a pretty common sentiment. I see your point about it being art... but I think that respecting his wishes would be best for your relationship. And he should respect yours as well! Maybe you can compromise somehow.