I want it to be like you say. What women may not understand is that when you put energy into your career or body, it's indirectly putting effort into relationships and attracting women. Schwarzenegger didn't have to work hard picking up girls, with a body like that, but oh he worked hard in the gym, so I don't fault you for that, and also, if you have experience rushing into rejection with women, it can be disheartening and cost you sanity, so I don['t fault you there. You are young, so these are the best years to build your career and life, but I also want you to find a mate.
Regarding what the girl said below, with all due respect, going on tinder is not putting that much work into finding someone. If that is what young people think is work, GMAFB. Tinder is one of the most passive ways you can go about finding a partner. You can swipe right just standing in line at the bank. I'm happy she met her mate there. I'm happy for people in happy relationships.
If I didn't go on Tinder I would never have met my boyfriend and been in this happy of a relationship. I wouldn't have found my soulmate.
Love doesn't just happen. It actually does require work and effort. I see it will my friends. They act surprised that I'm one of the few with a boyfriend but I see none of them actively trying and now they are lonely and stuck.
I'm not saying make it life goal number 1 and revolve everything around it but love isn't going to come knocking on your door and anyone who thinks that will be disappointed. This isn't fairytale land.
I believe you should focus on you two, I don't think it's stupid, focusing on your self is way more important because you won't have to keep obsessing or thinking about getting with a girl and you can spend more time enjoying what you like to do and getting more comfortable with yourself.