I feel like I should not put effort into finding a girlfriend, but instead focus on me until a girl comes along who I really feel for?
I'd really like a girl to go on some fun dates and not focus too much on relationships. I'm not saying I just want a fling, I'm just saying I'd like the relationship to form naturally...
Most Helpful Girl
No. It's better , seeming desperate is always a turn-off and sometimes you just gotta wait for the right one to come 💕0
Most Helpful Guy
I want it to be like you say. What women may not understand is that when you put energy into your career or body, it's indirectly putting effort into relationships and attracting women. Schwarzenegger didn't have to work hard picking up girls, with a body like that, but oh he worked hard in the gym, so I don't fault you for that, and also, if you have experience rushing into rejection with women, it can be disheartening and cost you sanity, so I don['t fault you there. You are young, so these are the best years to build your career and life, but I also want you to find a mate.
Regarding what the girl said below, with all due respect, going on tinder is not putting that much work into finding someone. If that is what young people think is work, GMAFB. Tinder is one of the most passive ways you can go about finding a partner. You can swipe right just standing in line at the bank. I'm happy she met her mate there. I'm happy for people in happy relationships.1