I'm not a relationship/dating kind of person. I prefer to be single, not that i hate relationships or dating its just a waste of my time and i dont like to have to check in with someone all the time. Anywho, when guys hit on me and i feel they're going to ask me out i kind of push them away or let it be known im not dating or want to be in a relationship and its like IM THEIR GOAL OR SOMETHING. Its ridiculous. They bug me and are like "well now i feel like not asking you out" and I'll be like "good please dont." but then they keep trying to find out more about me as if i was some sort of mysterious creature. They ask me if i think they're ugly and are really bugged by the fact that im not flattered by their compliments (bc i dont want to encourage them to continue). This has happened a lot but it just came to my mind yesterday when a new guy at work kept like following me and asking me questions probably wondering whats wrong with me, and he was asking my coworkers too. Fuck why is it so hard to understand
Do guys prefer girls that aren't dating around or?
What Guys Said 3
Yes, I prefer girls that don't date around. But I know when to stop my approach. If I get a no, I'm out.1
I don't mind if she's dating around, if she's actively looking for that special someone.
If it's like "One of my hobbies is dating guys", then I'm staying away1
Wow, this is interesting. I have several points.
First, when you "let it be known", be sure you make it clear and unambiguous. Men are notoriously bad at taking hints and many things can be interpreted in different ways. be clear be assertive. Be like a German, but do try be sympathetic to their condition, their high interest. If you can pull these things off- I know, why should you have to? If you can pull them off, you'll probably get them to respect your no. Why is it a burden you have to bear? I can't answer that question, but if you do that, the results will change.
Not to be an asshole but I wonder why you are not interested in dating? How did the human race ever go on, if people are this ambivalent or apathetic? I think you just have low interest level in the people who are hitting on you. Hopefully you find someone you have a true interest in, and he reciprocates. You are here on this site, after all, so you must be interested on some level in finding love. Since men pick but women choose and you are a chooser, make sure you know what is best for you and choose well, and not just be lured by shiny things. Maybe you are overlooking lots of good men. Maybe men are in the process of becoming someone successful, like doctors or artists, but at the moment they don't happen to have money or fame. Get them while they're cheap!
As a man, I don't want to harass women or be accused of hitting on one. I understand the nature of the game is that men are generally the aggressors, so I really truly appreciate and respect it when a woman who is not interested gives a clear definite no, and for bonus points, respects me or even gets flattered that I had the guts to go talk to her and risk rejection because I found her appealing. These women are rare. Most women don't have the courage or strength to be like this.0
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