I'm 15 almost 16. He is turning 17. I haven't had my first kiss and neither has he. We have been dating for 2 weeks and everyone is pressuring me to do it. And I see nothing wrong with kissing it's just I don't know. It freaks me out. I mean I want to but I'm so nervous. I'm just afraid people won't like me anymore because I've had my first kiss. Because I've had a lot of people talk to me trying to get my first kiss for bragging rights and that a lot of people like me. I don't want to throw it away and everyone lose interest because I know me and my boyfriend most likely won't last forever and after we break up I don't want to be alone. But I really like my boyfriend and I want to kiss him but I can't. Because all of this. And it just freaks me out. He has been so nice to me and takes me out all the time. Responds really fast and more. I want to but I just don't know. He has also grabbed my thigh, waist and kissed my cheek and neck. Help on kissing? First kiss tips? Should I kiss him or make him wait? Is it stupid to think kissing is such a big deal? Help!!
Help on kissing? #1. Kiss him IF you really want to. #2. Kissing someone won't make you easy. Just think about it that it took you 16 years for only one kiss. #3. You think other guys won't like you because you had your first kiss? Now tell me, do you want to be loved for what you are or for your virgin lips? #4. Guys don't care that much. I think you'll pass out your school after two years. Then, nobody would give a single fuck about your statistics. Yeah, some guys value virginity tho, but they're in minority. #5. Nervousness is bound to happen. After all, it's your first time. #6. If he's one of them who's nice to you only to get your first kiss, then don't. But I think he deserves it because he seems a nice guy as you described.
First kiss tips? #1. Don't plan it. It'll make you more nervous. Let it happen automatically. #2. You will feel so awkward. Don't worry about that if that happened. #3. Don't expect a perfect kiss. You both are amateur. #4. You can try wet kiss, but even dry kiss is enough for first timers. #5. Don't make it so long, nor so short.
Should I kiss him or make him wait? #1. You can wait as it's just two weeks. #2. But you both are comfortable so, why waste time? #3. Personally, I don't like such girls who make me wait so much and play hard to get. Yeah they want to be valued but I deserve my reward and I have my own worth.
Is it stupid to think kissing is such a big deal? -Of course, NOT! I'm 21 and kissing is still a big deal to me. I find it harder to kiss a girl than sleeping with her. I think kissing is the superlative form of intimacy. We all are so afraid of that. Don't worry. Be confident. I know you are :)
If people stop liking you because you kissed someone, then you didn't need them in your life anyway. It seems like you're ready to kiss him but you're too focused on what others will say/think. That's not fair. He clearly wants to kiss you. If you really want to, just go for it.
I'm sorry, but your reasons not to kiss him sound... stupid and it's not taking into account the great feeling of kissing someone you like. People won't stop liking you because you had your first kiss, I've never seen that happen, and it won't happen. Those guys that want to kiss you in order to be your first, would leave you if they got the kiss. They don't like you because of you, they like you because you haven't had your first kiss. You're gonna turn 16, which means you're are more closer to finishing HS, where this kind of stupid things happen. Once you're out of HS, no guy would give two shits if you have kissed or not.
Kiss your boyfriend. He cares and shows affection. You like him, and he likes you. So far you haven't given us any reason to not kiss him, but you've given a few to kiss him. You'd rather have guys want to take your first kiss, but be alone, than kiss your boyfriend you care so much for? You wanna let the chance of something amazing go away because of some guys that don't care about you? I think you're making a mistake.
It's up to you to kiss him or not. It is your life your relationship others should not tell you what you have to do or not. If you think you should kiss him and are ready to kiss him kiss him. Kissing is no big deal. If you are to kiss him it is not necessary to kiss him on the lips only you can kiss him on his cheek. As far as people are concerned they just poke their noses in other's business. After your relationship they will gain interest in some other's relationship. I hope you don't break up but if you do you won't be alone there is someone for you too. You are young, beautiful and nice. Guys absolutely love these types of girls. Also it is not important that your relationship gains everyone 's interest. With time their interest will fade. When you think the time is perfect kiss him. After all it is just kissing not rocket science. If you want to ask me any other tips no problem message me because your relationship status is somewhat like mine when I started my relationship.
My girlfriend was 15 and I was 16 when we shared both of our first kisses. It was awesome. People know they kiss, they don't judge. We're not like tongue wrestling in public though. Just kiss him when you feel ready and explain to him you feel nervous about it. If you don't, he'll think you don't ever want to kiss him and it will hurt his feelings.
It's no big deal. If you want to, then you should, but you shouldn't let anyone pressure you into it, kay? You haven't been together very long and if you're too nervous, that's not a bad thing, you can wait a little while until you eel more comfortable :)
If you are worried that by kissing him nobody else will like you then maybe he isn't the right guy to be your boyfriend. When someone is. My boyfriend I want to kiss them and be kissed by them. I couldn't care less if others are bothered. So if you are worried what other will think, maybe he really shouldn't be your boyfriend.
I don't know much about him, but he sounds too desperate. (With all the touchy things) But if you really like him go for it. For me my first kiss didn't have a lot of feel afterwards, but now that I look back I wished I would've saved that kiss for someone who was gonna be with me longer. I guess it really just depends on if the moment is right and what your feeling now because when that moment comes you really won't think about the future.
Don't give in to peer pressure go at your own pace. And Remember EVERY first kiss is awkward, whether it's your first kiss ever or with the person you like one way or another you're bound to have at least one awkward first kiss.