I feel like today everyone is so quick to get in bed with each other before they even know anything about the other person. I have nothing against premarital sex but I feel like in a perfect world, you should get to know the person for awhile first before you make that next step to sleeping with them. So what do you think? Why is or why isn't it possible to begin a relationship without becoming sexual?
Most Helpful Guy
Anything's possible. It's less common then it perhaps used to be. The older you get, the quicker timelines tend to be within -dating- though hooking up may be... may be more something some young women do? Not sure.
Part of this is that older people are less hung up on getting comfortable with the idea of being sexual, and not many people are totally inexperienced. Realistically a lot of the waiting with teenagers isn't waiting to be deep into the relationship enough, it's actually just waiting to be comfortable with sex.
The other part is that once people hit a relationship where sexual chemistry was a big, big problem (and that happens pretty frequently) they start testing for it earlier, and being unwilling to invest emotional energy without knowing it's there.
When i was young and single, i'd wait as long as she wanted.
If i were dating now, barring unusual circumstances (basically her being really inexperienced) if we're not fooling around under clothes within a few dates, i'd move on. I'm just not willing to get into something where we don't have similar drives.2
Most Helpful Girl
Of course it's possible. It's the way all mine start.1