Me and my girlfriend of 5 months got into a big argument cause she sent a clip of one of our sex tapes to her friends boyfriend cause he asked. They're close friends but still seems weird and disrespectful, am I right? Is this cause for a breakup?
She has since apologized etc, and came clean to her best friend and told her everything , she says she did it to prove how bad she felt and that she was willing to lose her best friend for a second chance with me.
It isn't cheating, but it is a betrayal of trust. Personally, i would break-up because It's evidence of where her loyalties and respect lies... not towards you. If she will part with something so private which is meant to be for your and her eyes ONLY , then that is an absolutely valid reason for a break-up.
I am a very forgiving person , but i would NEVER forgive any kind of betrayal. I could never get past it unless i dissociated myself from the person who betrayed me
I'm not really sure whether I think it's cheating or not, I don't know what I think about that :P However, it is incredibly disrespectful to do something like that, especially if your partner isn't comfortable with it and doesn't give you permission to do it. If my boyfriend did that, I'd probably break up with him.
If I had a boyfriend and he made a sex tape, then sent it to one of his friends. I don't think that I could look him in the eye again. Trust is so important in a relationship. Sex is a private thing to be shared between two people who love each other. A tape is fine as long as it is only watched in private. She let another man watch her have sex, while in a relationship. In my book, that is just wrong!.
It's not cheating but it is a significant boundary violation. She is relying on the good intentions of her friend's boyfriend. That's a big, unnecessary risk. Suppose her friend & boyfriend have a bad breakup, suppose that as an act of petty revenge, he uploads this video clip to an amateur porn site on the internet. Once it's out there, it's beyond anyone's control.
And for what? Why does this guy have any standing at all to get this video clip when YOU (the fellow in the video) lack the power to say no?
For this to be salvageable, she has to do three things: 1) She has to realize the gravity of her actions and appologize to you. 2) She has to see to it that the copies of the video clip are destroyed. 3) She has to pledge to never distribute videos without your consent from here on.
Anything short of that list, and I'm afraid that breaking up is your best outcome.
i don't think it's cheating but it's certainly a violation of your privacy and something that could cause a break-up
it's up to you, to do what you feel suits you best. i can certainly see being extremely pissed off. it's private stuff, also now this guy has a video of your girlfriend naked so it seems sort of exhibitionist of your girlfriend. i'd feel like i don't trust my girlfriend adn that she seems to want attention from other guys
Yes, you're right it was very disrespectful and highly inappropriate of her to do that. No, that's not cheating but it indicates that she has no sense of privacy and no respect for you and the relationship.
Logically speaking she is not the kind of woman you would want to be with, I would suggest consider breaking up with her.
I don't know if that is cheating but its definitley weird and messed up. Did she give you a reason for why she did it? I think that unless she comes up with a damn good explanation why you might want to break up with her. What the hell is up with the guy too? That is a messed up request, as messed up as her giving it to him without even consulting you. I would say give her a chance to explain but if its not a good explanation you might want to break up with her.
I believe in second Chances. I also believe that people will make the most regrettable mistakes in there lives that if they could, they' wouldn't do it. Maybe im to religious but I do know that if you truly do love your wife or husband then you are, under oat and the vows you've made before that you are declaring your faith and love to your partner and that you will work through the hardships in your relationship to fix it.