Women play too many games, its like you can't be a real person around them. If you're not mr ass hole then they don't want you or something I would rather be a guy that cares about them. Anyone else feel the same.
1- if the woman is playing games, you're either dating young and/or immature girls. Or she is damaged from another gy and is on defense mode. Or she isn't interested in you but she doesn't want to be mean or hurt your feelings so she's nice, and you confuse that nice with "you have a chance". More often than not its the first one or the last one I just listed. The last one is the most common, and men and women both do that.
2. Not all women want assholes. But no woman wants a doormat stage 5 clinger. And it's usually the doormat stage 5 climbers that say women only wnat assholes. If a woman is interested in you, and I mean actually interested, you will know. Don't be the guy who gets friend zoned and hangs onto that rope for dear life hoping that everything nice she says or does means she's actually interested and you're about to escape the friend zone, or that she'll wake up one day and realize she loves you. Don't be the doormat who is available and at her beck and call 100% of the time. Don't let her talk about other men with you, don't be her guy pal. Don't let her push you over or use you. Don't be so relentlessly open for her. If you take everything I just said and applied it to a female, you will understand more of where I'm coming from. No guy wants a girl to be a doormat stage 5 clinger who's always touchy and needy and always forgiving. It comes off as desperate and creepy and no one likes that.
If you are not like any of this, not even with one girl you were burned by, and you just posted this question based off of your experience with one woman, I don't know what to tell you other than obviously one person doesn't represent them all. One asshole doesn't mean all men are assholes. Just that ONE man was an asshole.
As to playing those well-known games - I give you one important piece of advice-
I've had many girls play said games with me, but as soon as I confronted them about this, they were suddenly quiet and didn't know what to say !
For example, I had a girl who was 20 too I'd met on Tinder, she'd sent me a "super like", but she told me "she doesn't know whether she has time the next weekend to meet up" - At age 20, anyone who is sound-minded has the ability to plan that far ahead and is able to set priorities - she was a college student too -
I happen to be a psychology student and I have a book that deals with "critical thinking" and this book teaches you not to believe everything and question everything.
I said to her: You cannot know whether you have time or no time the next weekend, since you, at age 20, are the sole person responsible for your own time management - I don't feel dependent enough to bow to your dirty mind-games and lies "
She was totally perplexed !!! (I have another story similar to this, but I'll stick to this one)
Girls play these games because they are insecure and inexperienced. A women I am currently dating who happens to be almost 6 years older than me has told me, they play games with me because "I am too handsome and too sophisticated and too much to handle for them"
At age 31, you should date women around your own age in my opinion and not 20 year old girls who tend to play games a lot...
Why are you hanging around that kind of person? Like if you're around a person who wants you to be a worse version of yourself, that's not good. That's not good for you and that's not good for the people around you.
Yes I definintley feel that way some times (more then sometimes). I don't get it, their is this idea that a man has to be an asshole to be assertive, for me that is not the case I will stand my own against anyone but I'm not an asshole about it (personally my idea of masculinity more mirrors a father figure, loving and strong but also capable and wise and always with the best in mind for others) So yeah I definitily empathize with you. Its a screwed up situation that women seem to think aggresive asshole like behavior is "manly" but if that was the case, we would not have gotten this far and our civilization would not be as advanced. I think women today are less nurturing as well so that isn't helping either (everything just has to be nonstop aggression it seems)
Well, yes there are women who play mind games but then I am sure not all women are like that, but then it's difficult to find out those women who don't play games so yes I understand what you are saying. You are not wrong to give up on women.
I 100% get what your saying. And it's true. But that being said, one day you are going to meet a girl who's different than all the rest and it'll be worth it. But until then, ya women suck in general when you're trying to get one for yourself to love
Nah man you have it all wrong. It's true that girls are utterly insane, I agree with you there. But there is a method to their madness. If you learn how their minds work, then you can use it to your own advantage. Unlock their minds and their bodies will follow.
First of all, its never a good idea to generalize so much. Everyone is different.
Let me at least ask this: Can you attract and seduce women on a regular basis?
If No-> Learn how If Yes -> You might as well just spend at least some time doing this for the ego fulfillment.
Plus in my experience: Good - Fun Activity Better - Fun Activity + Friends Best - Fun Activity + Friends + Girl I have sex with Better? - Fun Activity + Friends + Girl I have sex with + drama for the sake of drama
Not to be an asshole or anything, but I would guess you haven't studied Pickup/Seduction/Social interactions because if you have you would know that an emotional spike to the negative is just as effective as a positive emotional spike. Most guys main problem is that they can't get women to feel anything... that's a vast oversimplification of nice guy problems, but I"m not writing a dissertation here...
Then again maybe I am not the person to take advice from as I am only 26 and you are 31...