I've been talking to this guy for over a month ( on the dating website!) we haven't exchanged numbers. Is that a bad sign? How long do you think we should talk before we exchange numbers?
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I have recently gotten into a fantastic relationship with a guy I met on an online dating site.
I'm a very cautious person and I know what red flags to look for when navigating the online world. So I made my account on a Wednesday night and looked through heaps of guys profiles in my area. A lot of them were quite attractive but all looked so serious in their photos. Then I come across my boyfriends profile. He was a skinnier guy, and I'm an average sized girl with very wide hips so yeah... I was pretty insecure and didn't think a skinny guy would ever be attracted but took a chance and contacted him. The next day (Thursday) he messaged me that morning and we exchanged about 12 or so long format messages in that day before we exchanged Skype details and moved to there. We talked consistently until the Saturday when we made plans to meet in a public place on the Monday.
I really liked speaking to him online but I was absolutely head over heels for him when we finally met in person. And he was the same about me. All these body issues or personality clash issues I had before meeting up completely disappeared. It's at that point now that my boyfriend is actually so bland in text compared to real life that it's no where near as fun interacting through text anymore hahaha. Body language is everything and you're really wasting time talking with him for months without even knowing how you'd be like or interact in person.
There are a few things that could happen.
He could be an online player and talking to multiple girls. If he refuses to meet up or keeps making excuses, then he isn't genuine about being in a relationship.
Or he could be a shy guy. I'm the one who contacted my boyfriend and organised to meet him, now that we're comfortable together he has no issues taking charge to make plans. The reason he hasn't asked is because he could be shy or he too doesn't know how long you should interact before exchanging numbers. (I exchanged numbers with my boyfriend the day before we met so we could find each other). So it may be worth fir you to take things into your own hands and ask him.
there's nothing to lose and at this point you're wasting time by not meeting in person. Like I said, people are so different in person than how they are online.
best of luck and if it doesn't work out, don't feel bad.
Also stay safe and meet in public!2