Is it ok for my fiancé to get calls/texts from a girl I've never met, only seen once in a pic he has of her on his phone (he said she was "gorgeous"), and didn't know about her until a year of dating (2.5 together now)? oh and during a fight about all of it, he said "she was there before you, she'll be there after you"... I've always felt that when you are in a relationship, communication with someone of the opposite sex in the middle of the night is 99% going to be shady situations. (Oh and she lives in Atlanta and we are here visiting and i just saw where she called him last night at 4am.) So am I in the wrong for being upset about their relationship?
- Not shady, you are over reacting...Vote A
- Your relationship is being disrespected and they are over stepping boundaries...Vote B
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No, it is not okay for your significant other to give boyfriend treatment to another woman. Boyfriend treatment is a set of behavior that should strictly be reserved for a girlfriend. Things like keeping someone's picture on your phone or calling them at 3 a. m. on a regular basis are apart of boyfriend treatment.
Not only that but his entitled, rude ultimatum where he tells you to accept and respect his disrespect and tacky inconsideration towards your feelings is disgusting. If he is so concerned about a "friend" who was there before the woman in his life and will be there after, then maybe he is not fit to be in a relationship. What the hell kind of fiancé or highly valuable significant other has the nerve to tell his WIFE TO BE that another woman will be there AFTER HER? That is COMPLETELY disrespectful. Men (and women) who have "friendships" that are so close that they're questionable and expect their significant other to accept it with a smile are insensitive dumb fucks of an idiot. -_-
You are not in the wrong. In fact, you handled the situation pretty well. I would have ripped him a new asshole if he was my fiancé and said something like that to me.1
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