Me and this guy have the same age and study at the same university, but we are in such different study areas that we don't actually have classes at the same place. I barely see him, like once a month if that much. I saw him for the first time two years ago, and there is something about him that makes me want to know him. Every time we cross our paths, I catch him looking at me, but when I actually try to make eye contact he looks somewhere else. Everybody says he is looking at me when I am not watching. I added him on facebook after the second time I saw him, he never said anything or liked anything, so I got pissed and deleted him (I know...). Recently I followed him on instagram and he followed back but again, nothing happened. I liked a few of his pictures but he never did anything. Is this guy so shy he can't say anything? We have zero friends in common, I discovered who he was because he plays at the soccer university team. I saw him at a party last night, and he was always on my view line (is this an actual thing to say in english?), he was almost always facing me and I got close to him but he did nothing. He was with his guy friends and we don't have anything in common, so to me going there and start talking would be too weird.
How can I make it go from here? I thought I would forget him, but I just can't. I don't think he has a girlfriend... would you say he is not interested?
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Hm. It's very difficult to think of a good, natural-sounding way of approaching him when you don't really know anything about him. Whether he likes you or not is in my opinion impossible to say based on what you have written.
The way I see it, you have 3 options. 1, you continue as before and hope that maybe he will ask you out. 2 - approach him yourself directly in whatever way and 3, make it happen yourself, but in a hopefully more circumspect way.
For approaching him directly - if you cannot work up the courage to do it in person, which is hard since you know almost nothing about him, I think deleting him on Facebook actually gave you a decent opening. I would recommend to do it in person if you can, but that's too much, you can also try adding him back and writing a message saying something like "sorry, I was cleaning up my facebook recently and accidentally deleted you. I was too embarrassed to say anything, but do you want to grab a coffee sometime?"
I would recommend in person as some people (myself included) basically check their "other" inbox like once a year, so he may not see it on facebook depending on settings.
For the 3rd option, I would suggest using your friends to poke around a bit. Nothing too crazy, but do you actually know anything about this guy, other than that he plays soccer? Knowing a bit more about what he likes to do / where he likes to spend his time & who his friends are would give you a better idea of what he is like & what common interests you could have together. If you have even one friend who is at least somewhat outgoing, this should not be too hard. Use your network!
Finally... no pain, no gain. I can promise you that in the future, even if this guy shoots you down in the worst way possible, you will regret not having done anything a lot more than being shot down. When I was your age & in university, sorry for sounding old, I asked out 5 guys, 2 said yes, 2 said no, and one in hindsight probably didn't understand that I was asking him out. No regrets.. but the 2 guys I could not work out the courage to approach... well, now I barely remember their names, but I did mildly regret not at least trying for a good couple of years. Soo... get in there, soldier!0