So, I was supposed to go to dinner today with a guy I am seeing at the moment (second date). Everything was set for this evening, and this morning, just after I made the extra effort to dress up, I get a text from him saying that he would have to cancel, since a senior person from his head office Had flown in for the week, and so he has a work thing this evening...
I don't know if I should believe him, since work things, especially if someone is flying in, is usually planned weeks in advance. So I am a bit annoyed.
What do you think?
OK, a lot of you are saying, wait to see if he sets up another date, and then you would know. The problem is he set up our third date (visit to a museum exhibit coming Sunday), before our second date. But then he proposed a second date before that, cos he didn't want to wait until Sunday to see me. So I can't really test his interest you see...
Also he used to message me every day, and call every now and then. However since he cancelled that date on Monday, I haven't heard from him.
It is usually pland weeks in advance your right but what you assume is that he is high enough in his company to be informed weeks in advance which often more than not dosent happen. Even then bosses like to make randome visits sometimes to see random productivity and at times! es to just shake up the pot a bit. Give him this one and except it as truth because unless you actually have a legitimate reason not to believe him then you should let it go and just except it. Now if you do have a legit reason then I must ask what is it? Because so far all I know is that he had enough curtisy to tell you early on in the day so you would know the situation an so you could make other plans if you wanted, that he has a job he works hard at, and that the dress you picked can wait a bit to be worn another day.
Guys are better with direct messages. Tell him how you feel! That you were excited for your date, disappointed something came up even though you understand it was out of his hands. See how he responds to honesty. That will be the quickest way to get all the confusion out of the air and move on. I say give him one last chance to make up for it. Obviously it wasn't his fault, and you don't know him very well so give him the benefit of the doubt. See if he takes you on a really special date and pay attention to how/if he apologizes. And of course trust your gut.
If it is a work event, it is possible that it was planned weeks in advance but he was only today invited to participate in some after work hours function.
If he is being dishonest with you, it will soon be obvious. If he is being honest with you, you lose by jumping to conclusions. See what happens with your next date, be on guard for the possibility that he is a liar/cheater, but don't make a final judgment yet.
At this point, try to stay positive. People always turn negative in situations like this. Give him the benefit of the doubt for now. If this happened 2 or 3 times in a row, then you have reason to be pissed!
Work things are usually planned weeks in advance but not everyone gets notice weeks in advance. The presence of one special person can lead to getting hushed up to attend the event without much advance warning: "Oh, X comes and brings Z, we *need* you to be there because Z will want to speak with you. Scramble!"
Depends on the person. If it's someone I haven't been on a date with before, or just 1-2 dates, I wouldn't believe her. I gave the benefit of the doubt to one girl once and she never got back at me.
But if it's someone I talk with regularly, I've been on several dates with them, then I would believe them, though I would have my doubts. Just wait to see if he decides to text/call again, if he does, then you know he was being honest.
You have the right to be annoyed and you can choose to forget about it... You should however expect and accept no less then what you provide, if you are honest, considerate, thoughtful, caring and so on, do not accept anything less...
Work is a bitch for those important to the boss SO I believe him 100%, as well as knowing his boss is a jerk. If you can live with more boss jerk events like this, you'll be with a very successful guy, one that will eventually find a better boss less interfering with his obvious desire to be with you more often than boss allows
He cancelled the date on Monday? Did he send the text before or after actually arriving at the office?
Well, although I would have preferred a phone call, at least he warned you in advance and not after lunch or last minute. Hmm, I would give him until Thursday for confirmation of interest and the date on Sunday.
Sounds fickle. I dated a professional guy who did similar to me. See if he contacts you about your next date, if he is anything less that 'yes I'll meet you' then just forget about him, you deserve better.
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