Being honest here, I'm actually quite attractive. I'm 18, tall, good figure, long hair... Whenever I go on dates I might do a couple but then that's it. I have to point out I am VERY shy, so my full personality isn't on point when on these dates. It's more of me trying not to be nervous but it doesn't usually work. It this really that big of a deal? I know it sets me back but how much?
Honestly, i doubt your personality is so bad they can't stand you, because guys will stick around with a girl who is pleasant hot and might have sex. So i suspect you're actually giving the impression you're bored and they have no chance.
Best suggestion? If you are liking the guy and want to go out again, you need to blurt this out:
"i'm having a good time, I'm sorry I get so shy around guys like you. I hope you'll want to see me again"
I realize as a shy person that's scary as shit to say, but on the up side, you only have to be brave for one moment, rather then being not shy for hours :p
Since you could waste the entire date trying to say it, you will say it when the cheque arrives , before its paid. That's the rule. You have to say it right then.
in your age group its harder because of your shyness. a lot of guys are not will in to put in the effort to get to know you. most are looking for the quick trip to the bedroom and with you being so shy they know that will not happen any time soon so they dont try. there are a few that look at thing differently but they are in the same boat as you, being shy and reserved to they dont approach like the guys you have been going out with
Society has taught us as guys that girls that are better looking are out of our league. As if attraction had such barriers. Yes people tend to look for people like themselves, but there is no league. Just like when us guys "rate" girls it doesn't really mean anything. It's an arbitrary number we assign based on our own preferences.
If a girl is shy, I will probably internalize it and blame it on me being boring. Or her being uninterested. If you go on a date with a guy and your shy that's perfectly fine. I'm dense as fuck as far as signals go. Sometimes guys need a clear message that your interested.
Sounds to me like you already know the problem. Maybe you can pretend your on a date with your girl friend and not a cute boy... If all else fails, just nod and smile at all times. Lastly if the date stalls out ask your date if he'd be interested in pizza and a fuck. When his jaw drops in shock say, "What? Everyone loves pizza!!!"