We are 21. We've only known each other for 1 1/2 weeks, but we have seen each other every single day and spent hours and hours together. We get along really well and we have many of the same interests. He is attracted to me 100%. He keeps telling me how gorgeous I am, how much he likes me, how he can't picture not having met me. He really jumped in with both feet; he adores me. He said he doesn't know what he'd do if we stopped talking.
however, I do really like being around him buuuut I just can't stare at him in the same adoring way. I don't really like his features, except his eye color. I mean, I'm not saying he's ugly by any means, I just myself do not think I feel physically attracted or compatible with him. When we were making out, he whispered that he wished I wanted him as badly as he wants me, and that made me sad because it's the truth.
Am i shallow? I feel terrible that this is the reason I want to cut things off.
Most Helpful Guy
Consider choosing a mate as if its the only one stranded on a desert island forever and you have your answer. Time to be shallow!
That said, an interesting experiment would be to see how he will look in years to come. There must be software out there that would take his present image and morph it as if years were passing. Why? So many friends say they love their SO today but rejected him in school due to appearances.1
Most Helpful Girl
You're not shallow. How could you have a sexual relationship with someone you're not a least a little attracted to? You can't. And I wouldn't date someone I don't feel a sexual pull towards either. Sometimes guys that are not even my type attract me so it has nothing to do with beauty..1