We are 21. We've only known each other for 1 1/2 weeks, but we have seen each other every single day and spent hours and hours together. We get along really well and we have many of the same interests. He is attracted to me 100%. He keeps telling me how gorgeous I am, how much he likes me, how he can't picture not having met me. He really jumped in with both feet; he adores me. He said he doesn't know what he'd do if we stopped talking.
however, I do really like being around him buuuut I just can't stare at him in the same adoring way. I don't really like his features, except his eye color. I mean, I'm not saying he's ugly by any means, I just myself do not think I feel physically attracted or compatible with him. When we were making out, he whispered that he wished I wanted him as badly as he wants me, and that made me sad because it's the truth.
Am i shallow? I feel terrible that this is the reason I want to cut things off.
Consider choosing a mate as if its the only one stranded on a desert island forever and you have your answer. Time to be shallow!
That said, an interesting experiment would be to see how he will look in years to come. There must be software out there that would take his present image and morph it as if years were passing. Why? So many friends say they love their SO today but rejected him in school due to appearances.
You're not shallow. How could you have a sexual relationship with someone you're not a least a little attracted to? You can't. And I wouldn't date someone I don't feel a sexual pull towards either. Sometimes guys that are not even my type attract me so it has nothing to do with beauty..
You sound a little shallow (I wasn't going to say so, but geez complaining his eyes aren't the right color?) but you can't force yourself to like someone - in the end it doesn't matter why you aren't feeling it just that you aren't and that kinda means you should cut things off so as to not lead him on.
Your not shallow. You don't even sound shallow. If anything you should be proud, your being honest with yourself your not attracted to this guy emotionally, which is okay. You can't just force yourself to like someones appearance and plus there are too many guys in this world to be stuck with just one you aren't even physically attracted to. He'll find a nice girl
It's not shallow at all. I wouldn't date a guy who I wasn't attracted to phyiscially. I can't imagine any man or woman dating someone they didn't feel attracted too.
It would be cruel to string him along though. He doesn't deserve that. You know how he feels about you so it would be best to be honest with him , in a tactful way , and end it. It's unfair to the both of you if you don't.
You have the right to be with a guy you want to be with , and he should be told the truth so he can move on and have the opportunity to find a girl who genuinely wants to be with him
The truth may hurt him, but he'll move on from the hurt, but lying to him with destroy his trust. That will be so much painful and harder to get over.
Everyone has preference so that doesn't make you shallow.
I don't think its shallow. It sounds like a legitimate concern. I will say that I would take a semi attractive guy who treats me like a queen rather than an attractive guy that treats me like shit any day. Maybe ask him to slow down? I know whenever a guy is clingy they instantly become unattractive to me.