I need help. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now. I'm 20 and he's 24. Until about a month ago we both have lived with our parents and he's worked odd jobs while I have been working and going to college full time. He's always been the movie watching, video game playing, rather stay at home kind of guy. I've always been the adventurous, constantly stay busy or go insane, and the uptight kind of girl. I've worked my whole life (well, since I was legally able to work) and happily. I WANTED to work and get out of the house as soon as I could.. I didn't have the best relationship with my mother, but he's the opposite. His mother has babied him and he's super close to his family. Anyways, we moved in together last month (February 8th) in an apartment. So, we signed a 12 month lease.. Ugh I'm kind of regretting it now because when I'm going to my college classes at 8:30am and work right after and not getting home until 9pm, he is sitting at home doing absolutely nothing.. WE HAVE BILLS TO PAY. He's had a couple interviews (thanks to me, I filled out all his apps and spent 2 hours on his resume) but won't follow up with them. I have worked at my most recent job for a year, but decided it wasn't paying enough to support us so I just got a really great job at at&t that I'm excited about. It's just, I'm taking the initiative to make things work and make something of myself and he's doing nothing. He's home all day and doesn't even help me clean or cook (I do that when I get home at 9pm) I'm just exhausted and can't keep doing this for a year. I wish he were more ambitious.. I love him but I am in a pickle. Any advice? Sorry this question was so long.
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Wow, He doesn't sound right for you. He doesn't sound right for anyone. If you love him you really need to talk to him about this. Don't do anything for him, but make sure he does what he needs to do. It sucks, but you might need to supervise him. Instead of filling his apps for him, you should have sat him down and made him do it.
This situation is not good at all. Something needs to be done. Right now he isn't a man, and that's unacceptable. You're basically his mom, but it's even worse than that. He honestly sounds like a complete burden. Do whatever you can to get him to do everything he can. Please.0