I feel like my boyfriend is using me. We have sex, he kicks me out says it's late, asks me to drive him places, asks me to borrow things that he could easily buy. I brought him out before for brunch and he took me out to the movies once during one of our first dates and that's it. One time we were kissing and he wanted to have sex and I told him I had to leave since it was late and he said he would force me if I wouldn't, and looking back I should've just walked out, but I didn't. Then another time he got mad at me because we were having sex and I just wasn't into it and so it didn't happen. That time it was the day after my birthday and he didn't even wish me a happy birthday so I was hurt and not in the mood. He said he would make it up to me the next day by going to dinner. Then he calls me and tells me that he lost the reservation so I said that's okay. It's been three months since and we still haven't gone out for dinner. We've been together for almost a year now and I feel stuck. I don't want to break up with him, I'd like to work this out. I got him a gift for Christmas and Valentine's and as of yet he hasn't given me anything, I'd be happy if he took me out for a coffee or even got me a pack of gum, like anything small. Also, lately he's actually been hanging out with this girl from work saying she's his friend. How can I confront him without seeming needy?
Most Helpful Guy
use this opportunity - the new gal distraction/temptation
his shopping for a better replacement
to JUMP SHIP and save yourself!
You cannot change (confront) a mismatch "romance"
all you've written = loser, lazy, sex-only dysfunctional relationship with a user/liar
and the worst part = no time spent on shopping for HIS replacement!
Believe me, once you ditch this guy and keep him from hanging around your neck like an albatross, immediately you'll begin to see better candidates for The One... that treats you x10 better than your simple wishes posted here0
Most Helpful Girl
"He lost the dinner reservation"? That's a new one. I'm having a tough time finding why you'd want to stay with him at all. Just confront him. It doesn't make you appear beady it makes you appear as though you deserve respect in the relationship. But again, I'm not even sure that's worth it. Sorry but he seems horrible.4