I feel like my boyfriend is using me. We have sex, he kicks me out says it's late, asks me to drive him places, asks me to borrow things that he could easily buy. I brought him out before for brunch and he took me out to the movies once during one of our first dates and that's it. One time we were kissing and he wanted to have sex and I told him I had to leave since it was late and he said he would force me if I wouldn't, and looking back I should've just walked out, but I didn't. Then another time he got mad at me because we were having sex and I just wasn't into it and so it didn't happen. That time it was the day after my birthday and he didn't even wish me a happy birthday so I was hurt and not in the mood. He said he would make it up to me the next day by going to dinner. Then he calls me and tells me that he lost the reservation so I said that's okay. It's been three months since and we still haven't gone out for dinner. We've been together for almost a year now and I feel stuck. I don't want to break up with him, I'd like to work this out. I got him a gift for Christmas and Valentine's and as of yet he hasn't given me anything, I'd be happy if he took me out for a coffee or even got me a pack of gum, like anything small. Also, lately he's actually been hanging out with this girl from work saying she's his friend. How can I confront him without seeming needy?
NO CONFRONTATION use this opportunity - the new gal distraction/temptation his shopping for a better replacement to JUMP SHIP and save yourself!
You cannot change (confront) a mismatch "romance" all you've written = loser, lazy, sex-only dysfunctional relationship with a user/liar and the worst part = no time spent on shopping for HIS replacement!
Believe me, once you ditch this guy and keep him from hanging around your neck like an albatross, immediately you'll begin to see better candidates for The One... that treats you x10 better than your simple wishes posted here
"He lost the dinner reservation"? That's a new one. I'm having a tough time finding why you'd want to stay with him at all. Just confront him. It doesn't make you appear beady it makes you appear as though you deserve respect in the relationship. But again, I'm not even sure that's worth it. Sorry but he seems horrible.
He sounds like a scrub; if you don't love him, leave him. You could do a lot better or worse than him, but sticking around that situation seems like a waste of time. I understand that you don't want to break up with him, but regardless of whether it's because you care about his feelings, or you're just really hopeful for improvement, he doesn't care about you the same what that you care about him.
That boyfriend displays psychopathic tendencies. Get away NOW, run and never look back. He is doing more than use you, he is controlling you as if you were a possession, , not a girlfriend. RUN girl, RUN.
If you don't know how to break up with him, get someone in your life who cares about you to pass the message on. He threatened you, he's selfish, and he doesn't help build you up to be a better person. You can't get away from him quick enough!
This guy does not deserve you! He doesn't treat you good and he doesn't notice the things you do for him. I honestly think you shouldn't be with him anymore just tell him he doesn't value what you do for him and you deserve someone better than him, there are a lot of other guys out there who will treat you much better and make you their priority! Let him know how you feel and just tell him the truth, you don't deserve to be with someone like him who doesn't appreciate you.
Get out of this relationship! he's controlling, abusive and possibly a cheater... Find a better guy. Dump him!!
It won't be worked out... he's using you and has no remorse about it. Guys and girls can't be just friends sooner or later they are hooking up. Its best to just move on. I wish my situation was as easy as a decision as yours. Not that its easy for you but for me thats an easy decision. Leave
Maybe you haven't realized it yet, but this guy is dragging you down and making you settle for less and less each time. Soon you will lose all of your dignity if you don't walk out. He's not treating you as if he loved you or respected you, not even as a friend. Drop him like a hot potato.