So this guy I dated for a month broke up with me because he "didn't see a future with me". His words. He wouldn't say why exactly. Just that he thought we were too different people. So I accepted it and left without saying goodbye (because I had only dropped by his house to "talk"). I was going to do the whole two months minimum no contact rule. But he text me first, 6 days after the breakup. Just asking how I am. I replied saying that I'm great. He text back saying he is glad I text him back and that he misses me. So the next day (tonight) we are chatting online and he invites me to have lunch with him tomorrow. I'm busy, so I decline. Then he asks if I wanna have dinner at his (he'll cook) then we’ll go watch a movie. I said I'd get back to him about it. So we chat about what he’s been doing. He tells me he’s applied for a new rental place and asks if I'll come to his housewarming. I said “i guess I will”.. he was like “YAY!”.. more general talk...Then the chat gets flirty when we start to use webcam (first time.. we kinda did a half striptease thing but didn’t go any further than that). I'm so confused. I don't know what he wants. I don't wanna get hurt again. So do I meet up with him and hang out but only treat him like a friend? Or decline and see if he chases me? Or just ask him what he wants? He made it pretty clear 7 days ago that he didn't want to be with me anymore. That hurt. So what's with all this stuff he's pulling now? He's listed on an online dating site. I can see he's been checking it every day. So is he just messing with me or just trying to have fun with me whilst he looks elsewhere? Or did the week I ignored him in make him re-think what he wants?
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Saying "let's just be friends" means "I am just not that into you but think you are a nice person nonetheless and wish you happiness with someone else". it does not mean "we will remain friends"...you gave him sexual gratification before you comunicated you wanted a relationship. he is not a jerk so much as you were naive but that is ok. Just realize sex is the first thing a man wants from you and should be the last thing he gets AFTER he knows you want more than sex NOT before otherwise your doomed to get used again in the future and the men will NOT be to blame.0