My boyfriend has asked me multiple times to help him lose weight. In my opinion he doesn't need to lose weight but if he wants to feel more confident about his body then that's fine. I've started making his meals because I'm a very healthy eater and he is the complete opposite. My meals sometimes are simple like veggie burgers, or steak with vegetables, or even meals that include peppers and avocado. They are tasty meals but he'll refuse to eat them and go to the gym. I've tried to motivate him so many times but nothing has worked. Help?
Most Helpful Guy
Part of it needs to come from him. He can't place all of the responsibility on you and expect real change to happen.
That said, if you REALLY wanna motivate him, I know a way that might work. :P Now, I know everyone will likely say something similar, especially the guys, but you can use sex.
Okay, stay with me on this. I'm being serious. Refuse to have sex with him unless he eats what you make him every meal for a pre-determined length of time and then reward him with sex whenever he completes said amount of time doing well on his diet.
So say for three days he eats all healthy meals and works out a lot... you could "reward" your man's hard work. Alternatively, if he sits on his butt and orders an extra large pizza (of which you get like two pieces and he eats the rest) a couple times then he is simply not getting any. Your man will have to choose between food and vagina. lol.
Where as the female orgasm tends to release large quantities of the "cuddle hormone," the male orgasm tends to release large amounts of the pleasure hormone. This pleasure hormone can be habit forming and may in fact explain at least in part the "on/off" male libido.
As such, sex can be a great motivator.
I understand this could be hard on you as well. But you obviously care about him very much, so you want this for him. Do it for him. (Also, maybe you can conveniently invest in a detachable shower head. Completely unrelated, of course! ;) )
Hope this helps!0
Most Helpful Girl
If you've tried everything then let him lie in the bed he made for himself. If he's not willing to do the work then you can't help him.