I'm a black 21 yr old woman and I'm currently into my black guy friend. He's sweet, kind, intelligent and business savvy. He looks out for me and checks up on me. He'd be a fun and wonderful husband I'm sure, but I just can't see myself with a black guy in the future. I dated one white guy and I was very much in love with him. I don't want him back but I feel stuck on white guys now. Is there anyone who understands? Why can't I just look past race?
I don't understand why people are acting a certain way. I've seen other questions like this and majority of the opinions were positive. I think it's fine as long as you don't think of black men as dirty or inferior. It should be purely about appearance (because we obviously don't look anything like white people) since claiming that whites are different from blacks in a behavioral sense is racist. I also don't get personally offended by 'preferences' as long as they aren't for a non appearance reason.
You have some self-hatred issues that you need to address. You need to get rid of this idealised view you have of white guys and focus on the now. What exactly is wrong with this black guy, that you can't see yourself with him?
It can be something you like about them which makes you chained to them. Over ages each race is shaped by its society and culture. Think about it!! Blacks, Whites, Hispanics, Asians, South Asians, etc each have their own "core" characteristics. Of course, I should not making heavy generalization here but since your question is generally on "whites". Maybe you like the way they treat you.
I'm that same way. I mean I'm attracted to both. But I lean more towards white guys.
I'm exactly the same as you I'm white and I only date indian guys, I've tried liking white guys but I just can't as I'm not happy... My first boyfriend was indian and months after we broke up I tried talking to white guys but it didn't make me feel happy as I felt like I was trying to like something that I didn't, but my family know that I'll only be happy with an indian guy and they accept that :) so it's completely normal, as I know exactly what you mean.
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