I'm a 19 year old white girl and I've tried dating my white guy friend. He's so nice to me. We've been on different dates before and I had a good time. Like one time we went rock climbing. It was so beautiful 😍 He goes to uni and I know he's a family man. I've seen how he treats his younger sister. He treats her like a princess. But when I'm with him I feel I'm not attracted to him sexually. I don't get sexually attracted to him like I did my ex boyfriend. And I tend to have black dude crushes. In fact I'm not sure if I've ever had a white guy crush. Am I just not attracted to white guys? :(
There was a very similar question where a black girl was in the same position, but regarding white guys. Oh the double standard... how many people attacked her...
In both this one and that case though, I think the logical answer is - you're attracted to what you're attracted. You don't get to choose that, it just is how it is. Seems like you're generally attracted to black guys. Maybe it's their appearance, maybe it's some difference in behaviour that black guys tend to have where you live. It's out of your control, so don't think too much about it and just let it be.
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What do you mean "why"? How are we supposed to know the actual reason you're particularly drawn to black males? You just happen to be more attracted to them. That's all. Accept it.
Its all a matter of preference. Its obvious you find your friend attractive in a lot of ways, though just not sexually. Hasn't falling for someone just been like jumping off a cliff and hoping for the best? But some people prefer to date a specific skin color, hair color or eye color and there is nothing wrong at all with it.
I thing it is about conditioning. If you have previously kissed or slept with one racial type, you can find others of the that race attractive. If you have never been intimate with a white man than perhaps you should try and see if you feel different. I once dated an Argentinian girl who was half Spanish and half Italian. After which I started looking at dark haired late women differently.