I have this huge fear of talking to girls that i dont know or find attractive. For som reason i feel like im bothering them and that they will see me as a creep if i approach them. Also whenever i like a girl i have a fear of talking to them because of my looks (which aren't that great) and because i tend to stutter sometimes.
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I think you are a nice looking guy. The fact that you care that you might be bothering them suggests to me that you are a nice guy too since you are considering how you may affect others. You are exactly the kind of guy most women WANT to meet. If you come across as nervous and stutter, most reasonable people would just assume that you don't do this often and as a woman it is flattering to know that a guy overcame his fear of approaching women because his desire to talk to you was bigger. One thing I can suggest is to build up your skills in reading body language - work out which girls are paying you attention, if they keep looking at you then they are interested in talking to you, if they smile when they have made eye contact with you (even if they look away afterwards) then they are interested in you. Keep your approach simple and friendly, don't try to impress them - the main thing is to just come across as the genuine nice guy that you are, that is what they want. During a conversation, look for cues from her whether she wants to keep talking or not - if she is making eye contact, seems interested in what you say, is asking questions, starts standing closer, seems happy, then she wants to keep talking. If her answers become short, she starts looking around the room for an escape, then make an excuse why you have to leave and exit. The guy labelled a creep is annoying because he is one or more of the following: drunk, says something inappropriate such as sexually suggestive, touches her without any regard for her feelings, ogles her hungrily (especially staring at her body parts), follows her. So don't do any of those things and she won't see you as a creep. Anyway, I don't think you have anything to worry about, you just need to build your confidence. One good activity for you to do might be to go somewhere where you can see guys approaching girls and watch the interaction - how he behaves how she reacts and try to guess whether she is into him or not.1
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