Anyone who is devout in their religious beliefs (and that includes atheism) or devout in their political beliefs. Anyone who thinks animals are "just animals". Anyone who is Conservative. Anyone who doesn't have a sense of empathy. Alpha males. Objectivists or anyone who thinks Ayn Rand was right.
Basically, you want to identify if someone lacks empathy or doesn't use logic and science in their thought processes. Such people have worldviews which are based on assumptions propagated through tradition only. Such individuals are not good thinkers and would make shitty parents. Furthermore, such people often are inflexible and find it difficult to see things from other perspectives. They are usually stubborn. Any of this leads to misery for the relationship partner.
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Strong dislike towards the opposite gender. Like, if she/he says "I'm not saying I hate all women, but I hate women" then that is a red flag to me.
Excessive drinking. I don't know if there is an underlining problem. Moderation is ok. Smoking and doing drugs is also not for me.
Irresponsible and not dependable. If they start ghosting me, or flaking out on plans a lot then I don't want to waste my time any more. Lying and manipulation as well.
Aggression/bouts of anger that seem very hostile.
Wants sex too soon. Even if you explain you want to do it when you feel comfortable and he's being extra pushy about it, that's a no go.
1. Serial dating 2. Cheated before (usually comes in a comBo with #1 red flag (emotional cheating becomes physical after) 3. Casual sex or has 8+ partners etc. 4. Divorced parents or they're born out of wedlock ( their norm is usually dysfunction/emptiness and does not know a good reference point to measure/guide them in dating/fam structure environment. So they stick arund when it's bad not knowing or they're the ones causing trouble 5. Has a kid that's not my own (I'll never be her #1, and many many risks and seeing her kid hurts me and is a reminder of her past life. 6. Bad to elders/parents and waitresses 7. Feminist (deal breaker) 8. Entitlement ( if you think you deserve free shit this break up is free) 9. No common sense or sense of self awareness 10. Too insecure (insecure people cheat, cause issues and it's a fight they have to win themselves.
1. When she expects some sort of special treatment from me. 2." We are just friends" with a guy. 3. "We are just friends" with an ex (thats a HUGE RED FLAG). 4. No respect for her parents. 5. Talking about her ex all the time
If I can remember more I will comment under the opinion. This is my experience on red flags and the relationship went to a catastrophe.
I ghosted on my date last Saturday because she kept on talking about other guys. Moreover she said she was going to meet up with one of her "platonic" friends to study on a Saturday until 3 AM.
But yea... talking about the opposite gender, excessive tattoos, excessive piercings, openly identifies as bi-sexual, personality disorders, mentions she has depression/anxiety, brings up sex first, too open too soon, "mention-itis"... the list goes on and on!
Inconsistencies actions not matching words manipulation time of the day you are contacted types of conversations who contacts whom first Do they ask you question about you? Are they actually listening to you? condescending behaviour sexist behaviour racist behaviour behavious where someone projects. For example, someone can be cheating but accuses you of cheating How do you feel when you are with that person? Listen to yourself. Get advice from friends you trust, family members you trust.
Usually red flags are quite common ones you just have to be able to recognize in what package it is delivered in. Different package same red flag.
- Too self absorbed. - Talks about their exes... A LOT. - Isn't interested in anything about you. (i. e., not asking questions about you, your interests, etc.) - Anger issues (aggressive behavior over small things.) - Flaky, always cancels plans. - YOU'RE the only one hitting him up. Meaning you're not hearing from him unless you text him first. - Drinking too much when we go out. - Always on their phone when we're out.