I've always liked boys for as long as I can remember but I was a late bloomer. I only started looking at them in a 'love' sense when I was around 14 (late bloomer for most girls) however I've never had a boufriend, nor have I ever had the confidence to approach boys and the only boys that have ever shown interest in me I have rejected because they were never my type. Anyway I'm 18 now and a lot is going on. I'm meeting new people and seeing new things, I'm going out more and experiencing life. But what I've noticed is that whilst all my friends are getting attention from boys I'm being ignored and treated as if I don't even exist? It's depressing and it upsets me that my friends all come to ME. for boy advice. When will I ever go to MY friends for advice? Never. Because boys aren't interested in me. I feel like I need to stop looking in the direction of boys because they're not ever going to approach me. I know people will say I'm young and all of that but it's not the point, I'm tired of waiting and being depressed and sad. One my lesbian girl friends I have gotten quite attracted to probably over the last 3 months and i have strong feelings. I don't know whether I'm using her to block out boys or whether I genuinely like her, but the things she does like play fight and help me out and hold doors open for me just really make me like her and I don't know what to do. I just don't understand what's going on in my head and who I am. I don't wanna say I'm not gay because if it turns around that there could've been something between the two of us I'll kick myself, but at the same time I just don't know what to do about boys even though I'm not finding myself even looking at boys anymore. I hope this made sense and I'm sorry it's long but I'm struggling bad.
Most Helpful Guy
I think you are right that are being being tempted by your female friend because things aren't going well with the boys. But in reality, who cares who you decide to date? How do you know what black is until you have seen white? I say you at least need to try it before you say it isn't right for you.1
Most Helpful Girl
Be honest with your chick friend that your not sure if your into her or not. I'm sure she would be understanding and might say she doesn't mind helping you figure it out. So just be honest with you friend.1