This guy I was talking to said he had a bad past. His mom doesn't talk to him. He doesn't like the police and gets tense whenever they're by him. He was in juvi. He used to graffiti on walls. He vaguely told me about breaking into people's homes in the past. Did hardcore drugs. However, he decided to change his life around. He goes to school. He still smokes marijuana. He grows it in his home as well. He drives while high/buzzed. He says he takes risks too much. Despite all of that he's a gentleman, funny, kind and intellectual. Would you see this as a potential partner?
Sounds like he still has a poor behavioral present.
I wouldn't date the person (these days, though I would've in the past). I would be friends with the person and try to encourage better behavior though. It sounds like he could use someone in his life, but it sounds like he needs to focus on himself and keep the self improvement going.
I'm just one who found that years of marijuana use wasn't helpful to me. (I say the same to alcohol, games, porn.) I could have been focusing that attention on more important and more beneficial activities or hobbies. If someone could get through all of that and live a healthy and beneficial life, then that history would make this person increasingly more impressive and attractive to me.
The guy has absolutely no respect for people he doesn't know. He doesn't care if he kills someone on the road and doesn't care about stealing from them. I wouldn't give a woman like that the time of day. The reason why he doesn't break into people's home is because he doesn't want to be caught again, not because it's wrong.
No. I will leave the bad-boy fixation to the females. I am not interested in a female who has "a bad behavioural past". Past actions are indicators of future behaviour. Would I consider a criminal skank who is covered in tattoos and piercings as a potential mother of my children? Hell no!
Hmmm.. I guess it depends on how bad or what kind of bad past. I'd like to think I'd overlook their past especially if they have cleaned themselves up or made up with people that they wronged. But I could be lying on that, so I won't say that for certain.
He's not an intellectual for sure. Those people who smoke weed but are actually very smart or even genius like the guy from the TV show are probably not real. That guy was and IS just another delinquent.
I would go for it, but I would have to set some ground rules for my own comfort. I would really disapprove of the driving while buzzed or high part as that's dangerous to himself, me if I'm with him, and anyone else on or near the road at that time.
If a man's mom won't even have anything to do with him, he's a total loss. Lots of sociopaths are funny, intellectual, can feign kindness and courtesy to get what they want. I suggest moving on... This guy's track record is lousy!
Just seems out of control and would hav a bad influence on u
I voted yes but after readying your question I say no. I'm a licensed therapist and I do believe people can change and escape their past. BUT your friend still smokes pot and grows it and drives while high. I support the legalization of pot, but you're friend sounds like an addict. Driving while high isn't cool. You also didn't explain what "risky behavior" he does. Does he sleep around without a condom? This guy may seem great but he still has some things to work through. He's going to break your heart.