i think its just the only thing that happens--guys like me or are attracted to me but NEVER ask me out ever. It's been happening since i was 20. Even my brothers friend used to like me- but he never askedme out. even years later when he was getting married, someone asked him about it and he said he 'wasn't sure yet." he said that b/c i was there but he never has made a move on me. Guys who like me, or are attracted never do. The only man who did was a handyman who used to come and he was married- he and his wife were swingers so he tried to do sexual things with me, but nothing happened.
recently, a handyman guy came over. He was really cool and friendly and seemed like a really nice guy. Instantly I just kind of liked him. I mean I was drawn to him and almost mesmerized by him. I didn't want to say anything b/c I felt so strong. I'm a really pretty girl and i realized this is probably how people feel towards me- theyre really attracted and drawn to me and kind of get frozen and dont know what to say. He seemed to sort of like me too, but he wasn't making any moves on me. He did try to stay and talk about something and i was tryign to get his number. I didn't ask but he mentioned that his number was on his website for something. Before he left, he said "go to my website and sign in" I guess he meant leave my info. Who knows. why dont guys EVER like try something or try to ask you out for anything. I am a really pretty female, but still.. it's frustrating. im a girl and i almost could barely control myself around this guy and these men can control themselves around a really hot female. i dont get it
it seems they want the woman doing everything or chasing them
i mean u could tell he stayed a little later just to talk to me more, or started asking questions about something. Like he wanted something to happen but was too scared to say something. Men are always scared of me b/c im pretty and it's frustrating. in the end i end up single
This is becoming more and more comm. I can explain it but it takes a little understanding from a woman's point of view but I think you will get it with the strength of feeling and your frustration around this subject.
It's all based in equal rites and feminism. Many women will scream rubbish right now at me but its just such attitudes that cause the very situation your raising.
Masculinity for all its strengths is very brittle and can be a huge weakness if it's challenged by a woman instead of strengthened as a good woman does with her man. Feminism and equal rites are a good thing I agree and support everything they stand for in modern society. It started in my country and women died to get the vote and be heard. Emily Pankhirst is a hero to all women
However its taken tens of thousands of years for women to achieve it but we expect men to change and except it over night. It's only 3 generations of men that have had to adjust for me only 2. I can still remember my grandparents and my pendants behaving in a very old fashioned way of the man woman rolls being very fixed. Men were the provider and women were subservient.
Ok if your lost and wondering what the shell this has got to do with this question its this simple. Men used to have to take the lead ask a woman out do the chasing. Now many young men are very confused. Women have asked for equal rites so you have just as much rite to ask them out. In fact that's what a lot of them think you want to do. You choose the guy you want to see. What's worse in your position this guy was at work and in a professional capacity. It's even more unlikely as it would be deemed unprofessional and inappropriate to hit on a female client. So many guys have got into trouble even lost their jobs due to misreading circumstances just like yours.. The woman complains he looses his job his security and gets a black mark against his name. If women don't want to believe this then it will take another 100 years before it balances back out. For you personally this guys down the most he could given the situation.
The point of this is in plain speaking woman want to be chased courted but you want equal rites. Not to be harassed by men , cat called or whistled at. It's very very confusing for men right now. We even have laws in the UK that you can't harass or cat call women. Some men are not only afraid of being rejected but criminalized.
Could be that they feel out of your league, or you won't give them the time of day. You should start making the moves instead, don't wait on a man. These days both sexes are getting too shy to talk to each other. Might as well break that
Guys can be afraid of rejection too, being that you are good looking it's even more fearful for these guys, they blow up things in their heads and over analyze it to the point of taking no action. I would ask you out directly, rejection is just part of life, the way I see it just because someone is good looking doesn't mean they have an award winning personality. How you feel about it is normal and understandable the guys rejecting themselves feels like rejection to you most likely. I feel your frustration, women often reject themselves around me too, because of how well I treat people, my level of confidence is intimidating. Hope this helps clear up some mystery, you can write me if you need more info. I won't make you feel rejected, you deserve to be validated too, after all you're human.
Your assessment is pretty accurate. Most nice guys do want some definite signal before they make a move. And be definite I mean club over the head definite. Not literally of course, but sometimes a guy's brain will freeze up when he likes a girl. You kind of have to shock him out of it.
Unfortunately I have extensive experience with my brain freezing when I'm talking to a girl I like. Sometimes I'll notice a signal a girl drops 30 minutes to an hour after the fact... and even if I notice it immediately, my brain locks into regular conversation mode, so even if I want to make a move, I can't. It's not that I can't talk, I just can't say what I want to say at that point. Also if he is there for a job, there is the professional aspect of the situation, mixing business and pleasure almost never goes over well. If you call him when he isn't working, you may find him a bit more responsive.
I've had a number of jobs doing work in peoples homes and it's VERY common to end up chatting with people, even after the work is done. Also you NEVER!! hit on a customer in their home, that is a quick 1 way trip to unemployment.
There's this great movie in the cinema I think we'd like. Fancy it? I'll buy the popcorn lol. Guys just get insecure around pretty girls. I've flirted with good looking girls in the past and even though every fibre of common sense was telling me she's interested the words got stuck in my throat and I couldn't ask her out. Ended up walking away feeling like headbutting a brick wall. Hey if it was easy the planet would have been full centuries ago
Maybe step up and do something cause the big thing I hear from my bros is they complain they feel like they are the ones holding the relationship up. I mean the guy in the relationship is only so strong.
First... maybe you're too hang up on how you look rather than looking at your personality. That's a big turn off with good men. Second... if you're smart you'll know guys who approach you with sexual interest are bad for you knowing that... they don't know you. Third... maybe you're just basically unapproachable... considering you talk too much of yourself. Most guys who go for girls like you are bad men who only want sex. Change your attitude... you'll see results.