He's my car mechanic and I asked him out and it turns out he was married but he never said he was. He talked like he wasn't seeing anyone and I just want to curl up into a ball and die. What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
Don't take it so hard... it happens, there is no embarrassment when you take the initiative like that and try.
You only fail when you don't try! This will likely happen a few times more, but eventually a guy will want to go out with you.
There is no shame... sure it is a blow to the ego at first, but the only reason he likely said no was because he was married. If he wasn't then he most likely would have said yes. Asking a married guy is by no means being shot down, and you didn't know so it is not really representative.0
Most Helpful Girl
Hey, he's married and admitted to it, he could have led you along and got you into trouble. You should just laugh it off as a funny situation. Next time you see him thank him for being so honest; tell him to tell his wife she's a lucky girl! Then leave it at that. Not everyone is a mind reader or can pick up every sign another gives so don't feel a bit bad about this little mistake. The fact that he told you right off says he's a decent good guy, nothing wrong with being attracted. Now leave him alone, you'd feel awful if the situation was reversed.0