First time here, i have met this guy online. He's super sweet, very social and fun to be around. First date we hit it off. Had an awesome time with him and so we made plans for a second date. We're both 26 by the way. On the second date, at the end, he begins to tell me about his past. He 's a recovering drug addict. Apparently the environment he grew up in was not kid friendly to say the least. He started using around 12yrs old. and he had just finished rehab a year ago. For now, he is just attending meetings once a week and he has not touched alcohol and he says he will not drink ever again because he does not want all his hard work to go to waste. When he first told me this, i was very shocked because ( I feel bad for saying this) he looks like a normal guy. Quite attractive too i might add. and then, adding more shocking news, he tells me that he does not have a car. Apparently he has been getting rides from his roommate ( who is also a recovering patient and they work in the same place). I am college graduate taking a break from school. I really like this guy but honestly i don't know if i can handle his situation. oh! he also said that he will be getting his car in three months, apparently getting it from his home state. He is not from here. and this is not a city type of place where public trans is easy, more a like the suburbs. I dont know what to do. I would appreciate other perspectives or any opinions before i make my final decision. Thanks
Most Helpful Guy
Did you ask him why he is without a vehicle... sounds to me like a potential DUI?
My second thing I would be concerned about is your health. Obviously, don't be doing anything with him at all sexually until he is tested and cleared... I am sure you already are aware of the risks with users but thought I would just add that.
Finally, it is a lot to take on... my main issue would be getting attached to a person that could be a ticking bomb. Even though he may be telling the truth when everything is rosey now, there is always the issue that if something went wrong, he would use again! That type of unknown would be stuck in the back of my head! If it were me I think I would pass just because there are potentially too many headaches that could happen.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's too early to tell. You had fun with him, which is great. Maybe you should see where it goes first. It should be serious the first few months anyway. See if you can go out on a few more dates, get to know each other, see if he's worth it. It's a little dangerous to get into a relationship with a former drug addict but I know people who have really recovered and have never gone back. If you really like him, and feel the relationship is something worth pursuing, give it time. After a few months, if it goes well, then start thinking about the more serious things.1