I'm a white 16 year old girl, and I wouldn't even have posted my race but I wanted to clarify it. I am a strong believer that we're all the same on the inside, and you can't judge a person by their looks, only by their character.
Recently I've started talking to this guy, he's very nice, funny, and comes from a good family. We're starting off as friends but we've both confessed to liking eachother as more than that.
I told my mom about this, because I tell her everything and have a strong and open relationship with my parents. She was immediately physically ill, and told me the thought of me with a boy who isn't white was sickening, my parents procceded to attack me over this and that I'm going against their values and have threatened to disown me, because I am "Ungrateful, and dissing" my family.
I'm not sure what to do or how to go about this. I believe its my life, yes my parents provide everything for me, but it doesn't mean they can shove their racist opinions down my throat. I'm not sure what to do at all and am completely lost.
Most Helpful Guy
Me being black I can tell you other side. Every situation is different of course but here it goes:
When I was your age I dated a white girl. And in those days (the 80's) this was much more of an issue then it is now. And her father was very much against her ever dating a black guy. He would tell every chance he got. He did not hate black people but just didn't know anything about black people. Except the things he saw on the news.
My girlfriend hid our relationship. But because of circumstances I got to meet her father. He was shocked. And at first I noticed him not liking me but I kept on being myself. By the end of the day he really liked me and approved of the relationship. He noticed that I was just a guy and that all that he had learned about black people was false. But like I said all of his fears disappeared.
Give your parents the chance to meet him and find out all they don't and do like about him. If he is a good guy your parents will turn around. But it is important for your boyfriend to show his best behavior without being fake and at the same time not to portrait the black stereo type.9
Most Helpful Girl
She was physically ill after you told her you like a black guy?
Wow, the racism is strong!
Disgusting is the word!
I'm being kind only having said that!
It's your life!
Do what makes you happy!2