I hear a lot of guys saying they want an independent woman but those same guys won't date a girl because they feel she is intimidating
Most Helpful Guy
Independent and domineering are separate things. We all have masculine and feminine sides to us. When people are independent they venturing more into both sides more often, which is good when you're single. But in a relationship the guy should really be focused on being in his masculine so she an be in her feminine.
When a girl has had to really be in that side of herself for awhile, it can be hard for her to switch off. So in some ways she is still "being the guy" for lack of a better term. And their energies are butting heads.
When a guy says he wants an independent woman. He means a non needy woman that is taking care of herself and doesn't require his assistance in order to get by... but he still wants her to be a lady and to light up for him when he enters the room. A woman who really embodies her feminine side, while not being needy.
Just like a lot of women want a man who is strong and masculine, but at the same time open up to her and shares his heart. There's a balance
Most Helpful Girl
Independent as in a girl who's got her shit together, or has an idea how to get there. Independent as in she can carry her own weight when needed.
Independent as in she's pretty comfortable with herself and doesn't feel the need to put on airs or try too hard.
I'm not a guy, I don't think, but that's what I think of when I get hit with the term 'independent'.1